35 and older accountability, Group 2

41 days. Wanted to share a short update what seems to be helping and hopefully the same serves you.

I´m focusing more on my stress level and have routines that help me lower my stress. My job does not always allow for that, but then it´s crucial to compensate outside of the job for this. Even activities like watching a movie, while physically relaxing can be mentally demanding. Getting control of my stress is helping greatly in controlling my urges. Sometimes it had been discussed in this forum, how too much pressure is counterproductive too.
To give you a few real life examples, a few things that seem to work for me: Get a good sleep, being tired is more stressful then most might think. Planning enough time, rushing through the day from meeting to meeting and appointment to appointment just kills it. Say no, there are many situation where I would usually take on additional workload or tasks, which are not part of my job. And of course, awareness meditation. Getting conscious of your body, feeling how your stomach gets compressed, abrupt breathing, anxiety, nervousness,...

Have a great Weekend! Keep fighting

 

Whats up bros! Doing great, Things are still the same all is good. Deeper bonding with partner.

Learning to honor my commitments more.

 

I was worried about you. Sorry I didn't reach out. I'm glad you are back. I've been where you're at and left before. The important thing is you're back.

 

Still here… still clean… just over two weeks away from celebrating one year clean of PMO!

 

Welcome back, brother!

Also just a note my counter is 2 years and 200 days, so it would be 937 days plus

 

I am at a week now. Really great therapy sessions and accomplishments this week at work. I can feel my emotions being more volatile this weekend, so I'm going to spend a lot of time this morning re-centering myself. I'm doing well this week and this is the time to build momentum.

 

It is so good to see you back and experiencing the freedom you are. Btw, I realize my counter is not up. I will get that fixed later today and provide the group a update.

 

This is golden. The days when we don't feel guilt for our usage and feel the freedom to live our lives in the way we intend, those are priceless. It's good to have you back.

 

I haven't been posting much on the site for some time. I've still been here and active. I've been working directly with several AP's on a daily basis. When I was posting regularly, I got involved in too many subsections of the forum and following too many threads. It become overwhelming. Don't get me wrong, I would love to follow every thread on here and love interacting with everyone but I am just one person and only have so much time. I'm ready to start posting and journaling again. I plan to make daily posts on my journal. Any of you are welcome to follow along and comment if you like. Per the rules of this group, I plan to post a update at least once per week in this thread.

I decided to set my day counter back up again. I've decided for me that it is a good accountability tool. My recent failures have involved watching some series on streaming tv that contain nudity. The last series in particular had a lot of nudity and a theme of sexuality throughout the entire series. Allowing myself to watch those shows stirred up temptation. Once again, I arrive back at the conclusion that tv is not a good thing for me and something I must avoid. It seems if I allow a little bit then I keep going further. If I have to give up tv to stay sober then so be it. My counter now reflects the day I turned off the tv.

I'm amazed at the difference on the site since I posted regularly. Many of those I have interacted with have not posted in months. If any of you guys are out there and see this I hope to see you back! I also see many new names. I look forward to interacting with you all and working to improve our lives together.

 

Just wanted to pop up on here and say “365 days”! That’s it! I’m done!

fuck this feels awesome!

 

Congratulations to you. This is an incredible achievement. Keep pressing forward!

 

Thanks bud - appreciated