I am a 27 year old woman. i need to get into uni this year. I can't wait any longer. it is time for me to become the person I want to be and exploit the potential i know i own. also for my reboot, I used to relapse after failing at something I am not risking relapsing now but I feel I need to be aware of the possibility I might still have to fight the urge to hurt myself and destroy my progress. I will reach 1 year PMO free in mid August. up to when i was in high school i could concentrate and study. now after so many gap years i struggle immensely i sit down in front of my desk but then i listen to music, watch movies or go for a walk or i sleep and can't do anything else the whole day, i am very depressed and my job did not allow me just a little of social life and i was all about earning and saving money on Sunday will be my last day at the job that destroyed me physically and mentally with so many hours, often 53 per week on average. but the thing is it is the kind of job i do now that is very tiring and finish at night so even getting a new job would be probably the same even before i had this kind of job and i had the whole day to study i wasn't able. is it because of social media and internet so many distractions and my brain is fried? up to my high school technology wasn't big. why I cannot study? please help. does anybody feel this way? i would have an exam tomorrow but i know i woud fail at it and i can't deal with that result so i won't show up but there is another uni i can apply to and exam is in about 40 days. I can't allow another year go by. I need to succeed now
Hi there, i have the same problem as yours, im in med school which requires a lot of concentration and a good memory, on of my main problems of this addiction is the deterioration of my cognitive skills, i used to be a beast in studying but now i can not take it more than 30min of work I think that you should calm down, relax and avoid stress because it will only make the situation worst, shut off all the distraction, make a strategy how to study depending on the work size and planning your 40 days in a perfect way. Then you should take It easy with your brain, work for 30min than make a break of 5min, believe me at first your brain will try to trick you but if you resist each day he would last more then the day before, we call that in med Neuroplasticity. Make some physical training because it is proved scientifically that it help the mental for a better functionning. Sorry for the language, it is not my first language, good luck and keep head up !!
Hey I am ur AP remember I am also a student and I suggest you to first go to you tube and see two vedios (you have to search) 1. Vegeta's Pride 2. Controlling urges NoFap animation And see top vedio only U will definitely get help And msg me after ur success Good luck U will top this time
You're on the right track with the social media, it is one of the causes of our short attention span and for many of the social anxieties we have nowadays. Social media allows you to show to other people a curated life, but it goes the other way around and it works against you. You see your "friends'" curated way of life, that hides the troubles they have. So then, unfairly, you compare your full self (with troubles and good things) with the carefully curated (and only with good things) self of other people; there's your recipe for depression. I'd say quit social media entirely, your real friends will email you or will call you. I can only recommend you that you limit yourself as much as possible from screens (no TV, no social media, no youtube). Walking in nature is good, but leave the phone at home and just wander around for several hours, thinking of how can you help your best friend (yourself). To me, walking in nature is one of the best ways of reconnecting with myself. Lastly, avoid acting like one of your parents, meaning avoid to berate yourself for not being able to study; a good friend will not treat you like that. Even if you don't go into uni, you're just as loveable as if you would, it doesn't make you less. Maybe the next job will be less stressful than the current one and will give you the time to be with your emotions for longer. It's not the end of the world
Develop the habit of studying through conditioning: start small, soon enough you gonna miss when you can't study. Discipline is something that you either have it or you don't: At least for me, there is no way I can have discipline in one area and not have it on other things. If I'm studying, I'm developing my career, exercising, eating better food and working on my emotions. Of course you should start small, as I said. I only think that those small things are part of the whole, and that whole is discipline.
Same situation, currently finishing my engineering degree. I had a job which I liked a lot but was taking lots of time and energy. Regarding my PMO addiction I find useful first staying free for a period of time, just to see some benefits and then gradually beginning the studies. So for you by the time you start with small steps, you'll see that you're not fried, we're in the same boat, but you can in the meantime organize and plan your studies. By the way I try to keep a schedule and stick with it by creating my little "ritual", like surfing 5 min social media, checking emails and other things, the last one is putting a classical Playlist which helps studying, when it starts I know that I must begin studying.
