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Day 48: Scared of failing

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by buz123, May 10, 2019.

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  1. May 10, 2019 #1
    buz123

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    21 years old. (i’ve never had real sex)


    i’ve been scared recently to try to have sex i’ve been kind of messing around and pleasing my gf and avoiding using my.. you know. i’m honestly scared to fail again, i don’t know what to do. i do get erections here and there when we mess around (also A LOT of pre-cum i don’t know if that’s a bad thing pease let me know!!!) she offers to please me but i just blow it out the window and i feel bad, it’s happened twice now. should i just try to have sex again, maybe if she did oral my erection would be strong?, i don’t even know i’m kinda losing hope thinking i have ed tbh.

    any advice would be nice.

    also i woke up with a strong erection the other day, can’t remember the last time that happened.
    also was thinking about using sildenafil a few times to boost my confidence, what do you guys think about that??
     
    buz123, May 10, 2019
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  2. May 10, 2019 #2
    Kexas23

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    Keep pushing. Always think of the benefits that have accrued to you.
     
    Kexas23, May 10, 2019
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  3. May 10, 2019 #3
    bigboibez

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    Mate i am in the exact same situation with you. I genuinely feel your pain.
    I think the trick with PMO is to hate porn. It doesnt matter if its day 1, 40 or 5000, if you still want it, youll have to fight it forever (itll get easier but itll still be there).
    You need to dig deep and self reflect and work out why you enjoy or want porn and why you want to really stop. The issue for me is i have never been able to make a certain decision. Ive said things and tried, but i have never just DONE it. I still haven't managed to do this yet. I think my desire for PMO has come from isolation, lonliness and boredom along with stress. I start work in september but until then i am taking a break from the internet completely. I need a lifestyle change, and i need to understand whats missing that makes me want PMO so much.
    Good luck
     
    bigboibez, May 10, 2019
    bigboibez, May 10, 2019
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  4. May 10, 2019 #4
    xvtc ctvx

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    There is nothing wrong with pre-cum. it is a natural reaction and cannot be *stopped* means that your body is working as a normal young man.
     
    xvtc ctvx, May 10, 2019
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