I crossed the 4-month threshold for the second time this year. While my 9 months worth of abstinence have been interesting for me, people around me have mixed feelings about my participation in NoFap. What led me to writing this is observing so many people's negative attitudes towards NoFap and also being judged. Getting to 4 months has been more emotionally difficult this second time than it was the first time. The first time (February-June), I was using NoFap to attack an actual issue; porn and related activities hindered my academic progress, sleep, religious obligations, etc. and quitting screwed with my brain because of withdrawals. The second time (August to now), I have not struggled with withdrawals but rather with not being weird in society's eyes. To give you a window into what I mean, allow me to share with you a story from today. My family and others (brothers, parents, aunt, grandparents, brother's girlfriend, other brother's friend) decided to watch the movie Get Hard. Of course, this is an R-rated movie, which includes nudity, so I was reluctant to watch it. As ome of my family members had seen the movie before, I asked him to tell me when the dirty scenes were coming up so I could cover my ears and close my eyes. Side note: I am avoiding all sexual stimulation. (SEXUAL TRIGGER WARNING: IF YOU ARE SENSITIVE TO AROUSAL BY SEXUAL WORDS, DO NOT READ PARTS IN BRACKETS.) For example, I am not even doing something as simple as [checking out a girl's booty in tight jeans at the store]. I just keep looking ahead or at her face or hair. So therefore, you can imagine that I was pretty surprised to see [the scene where the stripper's tits are squished up against the windshield of the car]. I buried my face in the couch and covered my ears. My grandparents started badgering me about how I should love seeing that since I am a college student. My family member who had seen the movie before and whose job it was to tell me when NOT to look INTENTIONALLY told me to look again because "the bad part was over", and [there were those fuckin' tits still!!!]. Of course, I got mildly upset and left the room. When I got back, my brother called me a "pure, white, virgin Catholic child", which everybody thought was hilarious. Cue the laughter. I had to let it go because I only see him once every 2 months and wouldn't want our relationship to turn sour. Little did my family know of the chains that I was in because of porn and how much my life had improved by quitting watching porn. Another interesting thing - some of my dorm's floor members all met up for dinner about a month ago, and we started talking about the Rice Purity Test. I had the highest, and I got made fun of for DAYS because my score is 96. I wouldn't DARE make fun of anybody for having a super LOW score, mostly because there is nothing they can do to gain back points so making fun of them would be pointless. (also, I believe in ALWAYS doing the right thing and NOT making fun of others, which makes me unpopular in many situations, but at least I have people's respect!). I'll give you a third example. In one of my friend groups, somebody brought up No Nut November, and all of them had apparently failed except for me (I was the only one who had been successful in NoFap-type activities). So they started to poke fun at me for being "masochistic", "God", "Jesus", and "a bedsheet ruiner" (a reference to wet dreams from not ejaculating), etc. Last example. Whenever I see one of my friends start to use a vape, cigarette, drink alcohol, or hit the juul, in their room (all of which are illegal), I always leave quietly because I am not comfortable being around those behaviors. That will be followed by getting called "sheltered", a "snitch" (even though I have not turned anybody in), or "weak". What I want to know is why are my family members and peers so quick to put down others who are living (or trying to live) a more pure lifestyle? To draw a comparison, there is a similar effect with actually obeying speed limit signs (if you DON'T speed on the interstate, it's bad, they say). I just don't get why a similar societal attitude applies to porn related activities: if you don't watch porn and masturbate, you are the weird one out and people make fun of you. (has this happened to anybody else???) Why are people so vehemently opposed to doing NoFap when I try to have a conversation with them about the benefits? When trying to convince people to do NoFap, I never shame them or embarrass them, I just throw the idea out there. I also NEVER brag about how many days I've been clean or whatever. But, like a cat waiting to pounce on a mouse, they quickly kill the idea, judge me because they think that I think that I am superior (which is not true), and then move on to another topic of conversation. Usually, one problem is that they don't believe that they can go for even a week or two without busting a nut. People just don't have confidence in controlling their sexual motivation! I would think that people would have positive reaction to my new lifestyle of working out daily, reading, focusing intently on academics, abstaining from porn, not masturbating, eating healthy, sleeping well, trying to always do the right thing, enjoying hobbies, practicing religion, and most of all, avoiding sexual stimulation at all costs. Why am I getting picked on more than ever before in my life? There is nothing that I can see that I did to deserve it This isn't a sob story; I am simply hoping to open up an honest, legitimate discussion about the world's often-judgmental view of Fapstronauts AND what we can do about it.