Girlfriend made fun of penis size - Can't get over it

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Focused, Dec 24, 2017.

  1. Do it

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    One stupid question, till when my dick will grow? (now im 17 after 4 months i will be 18)
     
  2. Green Monstah

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    Welcome bro! You're at the right place. A lot of good people here! =]

    She thinks 7 inch is small?!! I wonder if she herself might be a pmo-addict. A lot of us PMO-addicts (like myself) have had our minds warped by the junk we've seen on P (pun intended). For the longest time, I thought I was small because I compared myself to what I've seen on P. I thought a normal size was actually supposed to look like an office phone. My self-esteem did break, despite being 6x6. A girl even once told me that 6x6 is too small... that hurt! Call me ugly, fat, etc... but don't EVER talk about my size. I would say it's the equivalent if a guy called a girl a cow.

    About a year ago, I attempted to quit PMO forever. Not gonna bore you with all the details, but I was an early morning AND late night PMO-addict for years. I have relapsed 15 times in the last year, and I finally hit 100+ days recently. Among the many problems that came with my addiction was a non-existent or next-to-nothing erection.Actulaly PMO with a non-existent erection, I knew I had a problem. Now that I have stopped, I can say that I just knew I was bigger! My erections have came back. I measured and it turns out I'm 6x6!

    I too cannot watch P anymore because I cannot stand the sight of dicks. I have been more conscious and I no longer wanna watch other people "do it" (despite the urges).

    My advice to you is you need to be aware that while some people are capable of changing, many aren't! You need to consider your options, along with the costs/benefits. How much do you need your girlfriend, and how much do you need those nasty comments that come with her?

    You do need to make sure she understands that she hurt your feelings and straight out humiliated you in front of everyone. Do ask her how she would feel if you were to call her a cow in front of everyone. It's the exactly the same thing!!! Also, it might be a necessary evil but do ask her how is the sex, is there something going on (other than size) that leaves her unsatisfied? Maybe try new things, foreplay?

    I am a virgin btw, so it's not like a girl did experience me (yet), and maybe my understanding is limited. I really do hope you and your girlfriend can mend things. I personally don't know if I can remain with a girl who hurt me like that.
     
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  3. Do it

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    How old are you?
     
  4. Focused

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    Yeah, I probably am. Too much porn, my mind is warped. And also I'm quite tall, so in my opinion my dick looks quite small on me. If I was shorter it would look huge haha.

    All good man, it's a good song. ;)

    Good question, and I think it's different for everyone. Mine hasn't grown since I was 17-18.

    Hey, thanks a lot for the warm welcome! :)

    Yeah, I am definitely "mind-warped" from all the porn dicks I've seen. I also want to try the NoFap challenge, specially to stop seeing those dicks lol.

    Congratulations on 100+ days man, that's some good discipline right there.

    She is definitely not a PMO addict, sure she has seen porn before but she has never watched it since we got together, or even masturbated by herself.

    Our sex has no problems, I got so worried about having a small dick that I taught myself to become a pro at everything else regarding sex. I want to be the best at it, for some reason it's important to me. If she comes and I don't, that's better than vice versa.

    I've asked her several times and there's nothing she wants changed, and I am the only one who has made her come by oral. She usually has 1-3 orgasms per "sex session", normally 2. Sometimes 1, rarely 3.

    She definitely knows that she hurt my feelings, believe me. But she's trying her best to make me feel good again, so we'll see how that goes.

    Yeah I know, I'm having issues with staying with her after this. However, everything else in this relationship is the best I've ever had. I've been in long term relationships before, never have it been this good (except for the dick thing..).

    "For the longest time, I thought I was small because I compared myself to what I've seen on P. I thought a normal size was actually supposed to look like an office phone. My self-esteem did break, despite being 6x6. A girl even once told me that 6x6 is too small... that hurt! Call me ugly, fat, etc... but don't EVER talk about my size. I would say it's the equivalent if a guy called a girl a cow."

    Yes exactly!! Call me anything you want, but attacking the dick is the most hurtful thing ever. It's scary how guys have committed suicide from women making fun of their penises, specially guys who really does have smaller than average. It's fucked.

    In my opinion, calling someone a cow is less hurtful. Cow usually means fat right? Just loose some weight, problem solved. Dick however, is a lot harder to change.

    I used to weigh 20kg more than I do now about 7-8 years ago (now I'm thankfully fit), but I've been called fat and what not but that's was a cakewalk compared to dick jokes.

    I think I will start with PEG, apparently it works but will take a good year or so to gain an inch. I'll do it for myself, not for her or anyone else. It would definitely help me get over it. Anyone have some experience with Jelq and all that stuff? Pumps?
     
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  5. she has 100precent mastrubated on her own, you know nofap is harder for women , this ain't no joke
     
  6. Focused

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    Yea it's a possibility, however I can't see when or how she would have had the time. Except at work, but I seriously doubt it. Oh well, either way doesn't matter.

    I'm not 27, I'm younger than that. I never fill in my correct age on forums. She is older than me, close to 27.

    No that's okay, I'm not offended, feel free to say what you really wanted to say. It's hard though, when everything else in the relationship is better than anything I've ever had before.

    Fuck.
     
  7. Green Monstah

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    I did jelq at one point and I had to go to a doctor as a result. Basically I found it on Google when I searched how to be bigger. It was BAD! I was sore like you wouldn't believe. I also had an erection that would last a few seconds then quickly shrivel up. Do no, I repeat, DO NOT jelq! They say the dick is a muscle, but it actually is a sponge and it can get seriously injured by this.

    I was lucky that I didn't permanently injure it, but it was a real scare! Looking back why the hell did I bother... I am 6x6 after all!

    As for you, i Know you said 7in is average. Believe me, it is NOT. Your gf is the problem. 7 inches might actually be too big and even hurt for most girls.

    Do no believe for one second you need to be any bigger. Your gf calls you out in size, that's her probem.

    Also, a good point raised there. A person can do something about weight, but dick size, nothing really. However, I was just trying to make a point. your gf would definitely be hurt if you called her fat/cow... she needs to understand it's like calling out a guy's size.

    Wish you the best bro. We got your back!
     
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  8. letter

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    What she did was engage in gossip, and gossip hurts bad.

    You know, I’d say that it would be good if she would affirm your penis to you in place of the bad things she said about it...but I don’t think it would work. It’s not a woman’s place to make a man into a man!

    Take your manhood back! Affirm your penis to yourself. Look at it right now, yes, look at it and exclaim with a loud and deep voice, “You are a magnificent penis, and you will make me and the woman I love very happy.” Keep talking to your penis like that in an outrageously positive way until you believe it deep inside your manly, manly core.

    Don’t make me do it for you, lol
     
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  9. Ongoingsupport

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    Classy. Prob bigger than her brain.
     
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  10. but I tell you one thing, nofap will turn your dick into a monster dick, nofap is a lifestyle, it ain't a challenge, and remember porn is like drugs , it ain't easy to quit, good luck my g
     
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  11. Do it

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    I have heard that nofap will increase your dick lil a bit.
     
  12. Focused

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    Damn man, that doesn't sound good!

    I've heard about the possibility of injury during Jelq if you don't "warm up" and what not, so you gotta be real careful. I might skip it, I rather have a functioning penis than a broken one haha. But then again you see people gain at least an inch or more in 6-12 months at the same time

    Yeah exactly, I mean, weight you can loose. Penis is a LOT harder to do anything about. I can't exactly buy a dumbbell and let my dick do some curls.

    I realise 7 isn't small, but I feel like she would enjoy a bigger one. My ex probably couldn't have, it just.. wouldn't work. So I think she is a bit of a size queen, even though she won't admit it.

    Yesterday was a motherfucking killer. We were "sexting" because she's away for a few weeks. One message from her went like this "I just want you to fuck me harder but you are turning me on so much it's not even possible to fuck me hard enough" - Ouch.. with a bigger one I probably could, that was literally my fear. My dick shrivelled up and hid inside my stomach.

    Thanks bro, appreciate your reply!


    Yeah, she said the same thing, that she want's to start saying positive things but I reckon it won't work either because it's just to make me feel better. It's like saying "You're ugly as fuck", then come around and be like "You're so hot" - No, you already said what you think. Even if it was a joke, I can't believe what you say now.

    She actually said she wanted to say good positive things TO my penis, I said that would be weird but she wants to try it. Odd as hell I think, but we'll see how that goes haha.

    Otherwise I'll happily have you do it, does Wednesday work? Lol, jk.

    Thanks for your reply!

    I actually need NoFap. Porn fucks this up a lot, so I need to do NoFap and I think I will start on the 1st.

    Yea you're right about that, some people get extremely addicted to porn.

    Ahh fuck man, if you know the guys she has been with before it will be a hard thing to get over. specially hearing stories.. nah, that's just impossible to get out of your head. If I knew any of her previous partners I could never had kept this up, specially with the dick-comment problem too.

    I see myself as very old school too, I absolutely loathe one night stands because I find it, well, gross (Maybe not gross, but I can't find a better English word to describe it).

    I've been with 4 women in my life, all relationships, and one of main "quality" I look in women is just that: Not sleeping around.. Except this time.

    You're definitely not a shitty person, you just know what you want/like. I would say it's a bit hypocritical if you have slept around a lot yourself, but still: You like what you like, what are you gonna do right?
     
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  13. MrChelsea

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    Imagine if you called your girlfriend 'fuck ugly' for no reason.... She wouldn't accept that. No one would.

    Why should you put up with her saying you have small dick when you don't. I'd question your relationship with her..... seriously. Sound's harsh but you deserve better.
     
  14. Do it

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    Its stupid but that is the truth u cant change ur dick size..
     
  15. Focused

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    Yeah it's definitely become a paranoia for me, badly!

    To be honest, I don't think you can compare breasts to dicks. The dick goes in somewhere, and fills a vagina up. Breasts are just.. there. Sure, you might have them in your hands, but it's not the same as a small vs a big dick. I can't really put it into words (English is not my first language, my vocabulary sucks) but yeah, just my opinion. But I get what you mean, and I never care about boob size, or ever will.

    I really really need to get this fucking paranoia off, but that sexting message fucked me again. I can't get my head of out if this shit. "You can't fuck me hard enough", yeah OK, great!!

    Haha I like your Rocky metaphor, that's a good one! :cool:


    Definitely, I'm gonna jump on the NoFap train (or, at least no PMO), I think that would do a lot of good. Porn fucks this up majorly. I get anxiety from porn every time now since those comments..

    Yeah, you're right about that..

    Trust me, if she was the person she comes out as being in this thread, I would have left light years ago.

    And yes, I have questioned it. For a long time.

    Yeah not really. I mean, you CAN, but it's definitely not an easy task.
     
  16. E.liberated

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    If you learn to not focus on size stimuli and all the porn ideas then there is a better way of having sex. When I include intimacy and closeness such unimportant surface concerns aren’t any. 7 inch is big enough to make love without any problem. If a girl has a problem then she is badly lost in the sick Porn world and such stupid ideas herself.
     
  17. E.liberated

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    Just dump her and let her stay lost in her silly world. Be aware that she is a poor person.
     
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  18. E.liberated

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    If you want. I myself would seek to see clear and get past being hurt and past this girl as both hold me on a bad spot. If I want to show her ok. But i am still stuck with it and stay on her low level. I rather want to find a better place ASAP.
     
  19. Devil's Details

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    OP, what gives you the impression that you can't do better?
    Obv she's the hottest girl you've been with, yeah?

    Honestly I'm not concerned about the insult itself, that's easily dealt with.
    "Hey, doesn't matter how big the boulder you chuck into the Grand Canyon is, the Canyon isn't going to notice."


    It's the fact that she gets abusive in public while drunk to begin with. Drinking lowers inhibitions, it doesn't create new thoughts. I'm guessing she's kind of abusive when sober, too.
     
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  20. ChrisJ510

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    Sorry dude but your girl sounds fucking awful. 100% dump that hoe
     
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