Jelousy and angry as triggers for MO

I want to share a topic that I was thinking about myself. The main reason, may be, is that I feel kind jelous about guys who often have sex, but damage girls in the process. Males trying to patch a void in them, but left women hurt, alone and sometime worse than they found them. I though that fapping (I don't use porn, instead use my own imagination actually with some girl or whatever) will avoid to hurt someone, but I was just creating an unaware cycle of self-defeatness. Then realized that I was using girls in the same way than those boys, but not in the real sense.

I'm virgin, though I don't feel bad about that. I'm just angry about those men who mistreat girls, and they left them bad and with heartache. I used to believe fapping will avoid me to hurt, and then to avoid use my urge to find someone and then just use her egoistically. And the worst part, is that I know few women that like to be treated like that, then becomes more complex. How many here are good guys, who never will hurt someone but are heartedly seeking a date? This for me is kind perplexing.

Any thoughts?