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Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by corylife, Dec 22, 2019.
Day 4 clear, good to go my homies.
I’m abstaining from all of it. That sounds like good advice. It’ll be tough though. Ive never been this far w a partner before. I need to mental rewire pretty badly though. Porn has been the way i get off for a long time. 4 years about. Since i started. I didnt even think about it. Part of me knew it wasnt right but it was too easily addicting. We’ve all presumably been there. Anyway. I used to use masterbation and porn as a crutch for getting through withdrawal symptoms. I havent done drugs since cleaning up, but Ive only switched addictions. Day one, my heart is set on getting clean for good. No crutches this time. Also thank you cory, this forum is amazing.
Day 3, I always hit to 5 days then the monster looks to me and says what's up friend
Day 32.... Mind games get easier. Whenever urges comes tell urself it's just brains illusion.
Yes abstain from all! I was a in a 2 year relationship not too long ago and sometimes my performance wasn't the best , I had Erectile Dysfunction sometimes, and I'd feel so guilty.. Sometimes I wouldn't even want sex because I orgasmed from porn 2 hours prior. She was also aware of my porn addiction and me trying to do nofap, but I failed all the time and she would get so insecure, until the point she cries. Porn destroys relationships 100%.
And drugs are just as bad as fapping because it prevents you from becoming the best version of yourself, although I do feel like the occasional alcohol and weed is okay in moderation.
Thank you so much for the feedback on my thread. It means a lot! Keep it going!
Twitter, Reddit, Tumblr, Youtube, Instagram (aka non-pornographic websites) can be serious triggers for porn. If I see something erotic/sexy, it triggers me to go on an actual porn website. I probably relapsed a hundred times through this way. Limit your use of social media, unfollow all thots, have some self-determination and if you have screen time for IOS put a website restriction timer or blocker. Good luck and merry christmas to you and everyone else!
Starting day 4 , it got tough. headache with real urges. I was feeling slightly isolated at night. 80% of my streaks don't even make it this far so this is a good milestone. Day 5 will make it 90%, a week would would be 95%, and 2 weeks is 99%, and my longest streak ever was 25 days . I pray I beat 25. Merry Christmas
I’ve heard similar stories. I feel really really determined right now. I think if i ever relapse it will only be harder to abstain after that. This needs to be my one and only go at abstinence. I need to be done w porn. Masterbation can be healthy. I can figure out a healthy way to balance that after cleansing. Keep me to my word. Today is day three for me. Day two of conscious effort. Ive tried to go a week before, just because, but gave in on day 5. I wasnt aware of my problem back then. I think with how insane i get before even a week abstaining, 90 days will be enough for a complete rewire. It may be absurdly hard, but i know i need some insanity and extreme urges to rewrite my taste from porn to the real world. Im in my junior year of highschool: i have a ton of school work, which is good, it also means i’m alone in a room for a long time- “studying”. I commute almost an hour and so dont have many school friends from my town to make a study group with, although i did just get licensed to drive. Trying to keep myself busy for the first month seems key.
Any other advice from ppl who have tried this before?
Also ppl reference “the benefits”, what are those?
Does anyone know of someone who has used a cleanse to over come porn induced erectile disfunction? I need all the reassurance i can get.
Merry christmas everyone, you all are a blessing.
Merry Christmas! Great thread that is going on here. It's been 8 days with no p &m. But 3 days with no "O". I am finding that with no P I am more engaged with people and more aware of what's happening around me. It's tough because there is so many temptations lurking everywhere....let's keep the momentum going here. Love reading the posts - inspiring and motivational. Thank you!
4 days done, soon to be 5. Im going to split the 90 days into 3 30 day phases, hopefully to make it go by quicker and to break it up and have closer goals.
Day 46. Still having intermittent dopamine withdrawal. This manifests for me as anxiety and my brain craving dopamine. It’s uncomfortable but it’s not constant like it is the first few weeks.
This is day one I didnt realise I had a problem until it started to interfere with my life and my mental health I keep thinking about it and It takes over my thoughts sometimes I didnt realise this kind of support existed until today so I guess this is where I start...
Thanks, yeah I reduced social media usage, merry christmas!
That’s really smart. Im gonna try that as well. Day 3/30 or four in your case sounds a lot better than 3/90. It’ll be a three month trip. One month at a time is the mindset.
today I had my first cold shower, then I started reading about reverse engineering (I love it) everything was fine, later I was doing nothing (I think it is when we are most vulnerable) many thoughts came to me and I felt anxious, I knew that if I stayed still I could not handle it, I went for a walk to distract myself and also do some exercise, I returned somewhat tired, but it was worth it, my impulses went away, day 7
I’m with you I just broke my 13 day streak so this is day one for me I’m all in
Hey C12345, that's a great way to do it.
Only way to not relapse is meditation.
Every year gets harder and harder to beat because porn keeps on improving and getting better, and technology keeps getting better as well.. Especially with the rise and coming of 5G internet connection, there will only be more temptations. More 4K Porn videos + VR Porn + and instantaneous access to fast rewarding porn, the future will be worse, 2020 will be even harder. Let's get good at fighting temptations now before it gets worse. You got this.
Kudos to you man. Converting your potential sexual energy into physical energy. You got this!