my rebooting challenge, pls give me advices

Godar123 · May 20, 2017

I started this on the 28th of april and since day I went 13 days without no PMO. Urges were controllable but that day my girlfriend broke up with me. In the past i decided that i wanted to stop because i needed more extreme things to get exited and i am not gay for sure but i was starting to see penises as a way to get my new dose of dopamine. so the night my girlfriend broke up with me, i instead of watching porn decided to go on grindr and try to find a guy to suck off, which i end up just talking to someone getting pics and after going to normal porn and masturbating. I was scared because i almost did something dangerous which is meet up with an stranger and also something i didnt want. since that day i went for a week until again instead of porn i started with grindr but the same thing happened and didnt end up meeting but it was closer. tonight after 3 days it happened again with grindr, my brain was trying to convince that it was okay and that it okay even if myself know it is not. and it almost did. I am scare because this time i was close to meet an stranger but thanks god i didnt. i decided to tell my friend to block the app and also anything sexual in my iphone and he told me that he went thru an addiction and what i should do now is find a hobby. Please i already changed my life in many ways and it has improved but now i need to learn how to stop the huge urges and like rationalizing things that when i am not horny i know are not good or wrong.

Freedom is a state of mind · May 20, 2017

Hello there!

I had some same desires in the past during longer nofap periods, like I checked out transwomen or watched some men ejaculating videos. I think that doesnt makes you gay, but it definitely shows that how our brain is used to "kinky" shit like that. It will be hard to stop the urges, but you need to make yourself super busy with no free time. Thats the thing that really helped me to get longer streaks. Your brain does not really thinks rationally when its searching for ways to pleasure and to let out the dopamine to have that fascinating feeling for some seconds, followed after the shame of fapping...

I suggest to you (also incouding starting a new hobby) to try out different ways to relieve stress. Try working out or going for a run. Its not only beneficial for you health, but also helps the process.

Stay strong, the grind dont stop!

Godar123 · May 20, 2017

thanks man! i will try it out and update

w95chris · May 20, 2017

The only way to destroy that habit is to replace it with a new one.Usually it is working out because it worked for most of us here but every person is different so you have to find something to occupy you in order not to relapse.

The urges will strike you so better be ready because at some point you will have nothing to do and at that point your urges will come.No need to worry though just ignore them and they will fade away in time.The hardest part is the first few days,after that it becomes easier

Remember that your brain needed something "different".Imagine watching the same movie over and over again,at some point you will get tired of it.That is what happened with your brain and it switched on to more "hardcore" stuff.But all these will go away during your reboot

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