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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by aceofsevens, May 5, 2020.

  1. aceofsevens

    aceofsevens New Fapstronaut

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    I've suffered two relapses today, both about half an hour ago and they both involved PMO. I've decided that this time I'm going to approach the situation a little differently. Instead of shutting myself away from society out of the guilt, embarrassment and whatever labels I decide to put on myself, I'm going to talk about it on this freshly made account.

    Complaining to myself about the problem is only going to make it worse- think about if you have a scab and then you decide to pick at it. Would it get any better? Even though it may be tempting to dwell in my anxiety for a few days, those few days could easily become a few weeks or a few months. A few years even. I've decided that there's no better time to get help for my addiction than today.

    I'm not going to let this relapse put me down or any other relapses put me down. I have a choice of either hiding from my flaws or facing them head on. That doesn't mean that I can't sympathize with myself over the difficulty of the tasks ahead of me. It also doesn't mean that I can procrastinate, finding comfort in foods and videogames. I'm going to naturally restore my dopamine receptors by pushing forward and conquering the challenges that I'll face. These feelings which I'll get will be transmuted into pure, concentrated and focused effort, or I'll ignore them and let them pass if they can be of no use to me.
     
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    Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!
     
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  3. palindromo

    palindromo Fapstronaut

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    Welcome
    Please, start studying carefully what's happening in your mind > https://oceanrecoverycentre.com/2016/07/the-ultimate-guide-to-overcoming-internet-porn-addiction/

    First time without porn will be stressful , but if you resist , in some months you will feel reborn.
    So if you have any temptation , is okay to masturbate if you can't handle the stress , but don't porn anymore.
    No more instagram pictures of models. No more erotic imagines , erotic stories or asmr.
    If you experience ''flatline'' and low libido , resist.
    >https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/por...l-size-and-or-libido-are-decreasing-flatline/

    The brain will try to win you and to get some triggers for the seek of dopamine. Resist

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    I recommend to start a journal or some challenges
     
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  4. | Nico |

    | Nico | Distinguished Fapstronaut
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    Welcome to the community mate, any questions or concerns please dont hesitate to ask, best of luck on your journey
     
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  5. 978twentytwo

    978twentytwo Fapstronaut

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    Love your mindset - it really is true- we get anxious and then send ourselves into further despair which is unnecessary. We need to praise ourselves for being conscious and recognising this and our unhealthy habits and having the bravery to set foot out from it. I wish you all the best on your journey of healing.
     
  6. warpgate

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    Glad you decided to join! Welcome :)

    It's great that you are facing this head on and remember that the problem is porn, not you. I used to feel very ashamed of this and it slowed my progress a lot because I kept beating myself up over failure—if you believe you are bad like I did, then you will relapse more because that's what a bad person does. This will start really, really hard but will get easier later on. I personally found a youtube channel called Universal Man to be very helpful and I think having accountability partners could help.

    We are all in this together! :)
     

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