Check-in Fellowship
My brothers and sisters, after a lot of ponderation i decide to resume my journey to Mount Doom
. this is because i´m feeling displaced from the Fellowship, everybody here is on the way to destroy the pmo ring, and i´m just watching the scene from afar. not feeling good about it. however i still don´t want to activate the counter since seeing the days past and ahead creates pressure on me. so i will resume my previous technique of simply registering the day of a landmark in my agenda. so when the day comes, i will post here
. to the present streak, after calculation from my last pmo session, on Sunday i will reach Uruk-Hai status.
sorry about my swings, Fellowship. it´s just me being me
So the Chronicler says goodbye and the Orc presents the travellers of today
. Congratulations!!!
@Cartographer - Ford of Bruinen / Eriador
@Strugglingforyears - Gates of Argonath / Anduin River
Feels good to be back with you in full force brave Fellowship. Now that we all together, let´s go destroy that damn pmo ring. Have a great day Companion!!! and an even better weekend
easy_peasy
Chapter 10
Advantages of Being a Porn User
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Chapter 11
The Willpower Method
It’s an accepted fact in society that it’s very difficult to stop porn. Books and forums advising you on how to
stop usually start off by telling you how difficult it is. The truth is that it’s ridiculously easy. It’s understandable
to question that statement, but first just consider it. If your aim is running a mile in four minutes, that’s difficult
and you’ll have to undergo years of hard training, and even then possibly being physically incapable.
However, all you have to do to stop porn is to not watch it and/or masturbate anymore. Nobody forces you to
masturbate (apart from yourself) and unlike food or water, it isn’t needed for survival. So if you want to stop
doing it, why should it be difficult? In fact, it isn’t. It’s users who make it difficult for themselves through use
of willpower or any method that forces the user to feel like they’re making some sort of sacrifice. Let’s consider
these methods.
We don’t decide to become users, we merely experiment with porn magazines or websites and because they’re
awful (that’s right, awful), apart from our desired clip, we’re convinced that we can stop whenever we want to.
At first, we watch those first few clips when we want to and on special occasions. Before we realise it, we’re not
only visiting those sites regularly and masturbating when we want to – we’re masturbating to them daily. Porn
has become a part of our lives, ensuring we require an internet connection wherever we go. We then believe
we’re entitled to love, sex, orgasm and the stress relieving properties of porn. It doesn’t seem to occur to us
that the same clip and actors don’t provide us with the same degree of arousal and we begin fighting against the
red line to avoid ’bad porn’. In fact, masturbation and internet porn neither improves our sex lives or reduces
stress, merely that users believe they can’t enjoy life or handle stress without an orgasm.
It usually takes a long time to realise that we’re hooked because we suffer from the illusion that users watch
porn because they enjoy it – and not because they need to. When we’re not ‘enjoying’ porn, which we can
never do unless novelty, shock or escalation is added, we’re under the illusion we can stop whenever. This is a
confidence trap, “I don’t enjoy porn, so I can stop when I want to”. Only that you never seem to ’want’ to stop.
It’s usually not until we actually try to stop that we realise a problem exists, the first attempts are generally
early – triggered by meeting a partner and noticing they aren’t ’quite enough’ after the initial dates. Another
common reason is noticing health effects present in daily life.
Regardless of reason, the user always waits for a stressful situation, whether health or sex. As soon as they
stop, the little monster begins to get hungry. The user then wants something to pump their dopamine, such as
cigarettes, alcohol, or their favourite – internet porn – with their harem only a click away. The porn cache is
no longer in the basement, it’s virtual and accessible from anywhere. If their partner is around or they’re with
friends, they no longer have access to their virtual harem, making them even more distressed.
If the user has come across scientific material or online communities, they’ll be having a tug-of-war in their
mind, resisting temptations and feeling deprived. Their way to usually relieve stress is now unavailable, suffering
a triple blow. The probable result after this period of torture is compromise – “I’ll cut down” or “I’ve picked
the wrong time” or perhaps, “I’ll wait until the stress has gone from my life.” However, once the stress has gone
there’s no reason to stop and the user doesn’t decide to quit again until the next stressful time.
Of course, there’s never a right time because life for most people becomes more stressful. We leave the protection
of our parents, entering the world of setting up home, taking on mortgages, having children and having more
responsible jobs. Regardless – the user’s life cannot become less stressful because porn actually causes stress.
The quicker the user passes on to the escalation stage, the more distressed they become and the greater the
illusion dependency grows."