An other way to go about it. I think perhaps we all fall to a mindset trap set by porn and media that there are men and women so very different and apart. The normal thing is actually that they are all people around you. You will be talking and interacting with both men and women, people, all the time. Everywhere you go. Starting up a conversation with a person of no importance to you is not all that hard. If you look at a girl as a possible mate, with the intension to hook up, approaching will be much harder. Eventually the magic of mutual interest will happen in one of those conversations.