*NEW TO NOFAP AND HAVE QUESTIONS*

[TheGreatOne261]

JUST AS A HEADS UP I TALK ABOUT WHAT P I WAS ADDICTED TO… so read at your own will!!!

So to start things off I’m very new to this nofap thing. I’m 19 years old and I’ve been fapping for a good 7-8 years and when I first started off watching porn it was normal porn. Then over the years I fell into the hentai hole. After that I moved into anal porn mixed with hentai. Then I started to go into fetish porn and I fell DEEP into that hole and started to watch a lot of (in my current opinion) weird fetish stuff. Recently I just started to watch some fetish porn that had me Realize I was on the edge of no return so about a week ago I’ve stopped all fapping. In the past I’ve kinda done NoFap and I would last a few days then go back (never knew what nofap was) and other days I would O multiple times but a normal day for me was to O 1 time a day. With all this being said I was wondering if I could get some answers to my questions. Also as I’m writing this it’s been 8Days almost 9 of no MO and some P but I’ll explain what my thoughts process was/is.


Question 1: What is a flatline/ flatline period.

sense I started NoFap I’ve noticed that my penis doesn’t look as big but I’m a lot harder and able to stay hard for alotlonger. I also want to point out I have always gotten morning wood and do not have ed/pied. Will it go back to its normal size/increase in both size and girth?

Before I get into my 2nd question I know that all porn is bad for you and will fuck you up but from my pov I’ve been addicted to fetish porn for a while and in the past week of hard no PMO I’ve started to only look at up close pictures of pussy when im like super horny. My reason for this is to get my brain used to it because I’ve watched weird shit for so long and too get me in the habit of getting hard when I do see it. So I would like peoples opinion on this. I do NOT touch when I do look at the pictures and I understand the risk of relapsing but sense my head is messed up I figured this would help.

Question 2: Is what I stated above a good idea to try and keep doing/would this help rewire my brain faster?

One of my last things I want to talk about is that I just started college a weeks ago and I’ve already been talking to infinitely more girls then I ever had. I also noticed that my sex drive is way up along with my confidence. I’ve always fantasized about girls but not to the extent I’m doing now. I rarely think about the weird fetish stuff but it’s still there.

Question 3: If you are doing no PMO how does it work if your having sex? Does the same rules of no PMO apply or is it deferent because it’s actual sex and not your hand.


Thank you to the people that read and comment on this. This is also my first time on a forum page so I just wrote everything out.

 

[ThinkSmarter]

Welcome bro!

What is a flatline/ flatline period.

Cannot be much of a help here as I only know the basic idea, which is that the flatline period is when your body goes back to normal and you may have little or no sex drive.

Is what I stated above a good idea to try and keep doing/would this help rewire my brain faster?

Well first of all you are talking about p-subs and I get what you are saying, because I was also addicted to fetish p and when I started no pmo felt overwhelming and thought to just m for as little as 5 min and get used to the "normal" way again. But to my surprise a week had passed and I simply didn't felt that I needed to m, so I changed my goal to no pmo. But on my opinion it's not going to help you rewire your brain faster, because in a way you are still giving in to your sexual desires and wasting time to feel ok, same to how you need coffee to wake up, so I believe a faster way to rewire is to develop self-discipline, but the best way is your way and that fortunately/unfortunately comes out of experience. You can google search nofap pdf and read it, it goes over Why our brain is addicted to p and since the root of the addiction is the brain, it is helpful to know Why you want to give in.

If you are doing no PMO how does it work if your having sex? Does the same rules of no PMO apply or is it deferent because it’s actual sex and not your hand.

It depends on your goal, some people choose abstain from lust completely, while others don't, so in sort there's no rule there.

Here's a few general tips I have learned over time
First of all you can start a journal here Under 20 | NoFap® I believe that to be very helpful, because you can use it as accountability and think twice before you take any decision and also you can help/inspire others!

Another advice that I can give you is to use this opportunity to not only remove this addiction, but become a Better person overall and learn to live your life again in a healthier way! Complementary to this I suggest to not count days, but make the days count!

Remember that you will Always regret it, but at the same time a relapse can be proven helpful if you learn something important that will help you on and a relapse is not a reset as the knowledge you gain don't go anywhere and the resistance against habit builds self-discipline, which also remains!

I also recommend learning about a very broad topic, which is dopamine and Why your brain is addicted to p, but it's also useful on other addictions too and it's a very enlightening thing to know about, as I already mentioned nofap has a pdf that you can read and it goes over that topic too. To be honest I was afraid to find out more about that as I didn't knew the result of learning about it, but it helps a lot!

Another thing I learned recently is that "urges" are brain suggestions based on your past habits, so change your habits and your mind will change its suggestions too! Also, stop listening to your mind as the only truth and when you feel stressed or frustrated know that that's good, it means you are evolving and your brain fears getting out of the comfort zone as its something new, but you should keep going!

Another recent lesson is that we shouldn't look at triggers as triggers all the time, because some of them are very pure and our excessive porn use is what makes it look like a trigger, but even if it isn't pure, it's our habit that makes us want to satisfy the need and back then I was young, but now I have a choice to how I will respond to it and I choose to think rationally!

Abstaining will leave a void in your life, so I suggest you to find a hobby, either a beneficial one regarding your future career or just a joyful one to spend time with.

You can benefit from emotions if you listen to them, for example boredom can be an indicator to learn from and improve your life, not to try and hide it by doing something temporarily to not feel bored.

And here's what I believe about everyone starting this journey
This journey Will be the best in your life and you Will get back all of the benefits, like believing in yourself again, self-confidence, self-discipline and time for greater things!