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Don't waste as much time as I did. Life is short and we need our sex energy:

1. Porn does major damage, but we CAN have something better
2. Relapse with "wholesome" regular masturbation is much less destructive than porn- but can provoke porn urges if one is not prepared, and it can easily be done in excess.
3. If you are TRULY exhausted with "fighting it" I highly recommend a twelve step program. Working the steps thoroughly will provide answers (especially once you've hit rock bottom, or tried everything else)
4. Everything gets easier after a few weeks of success
5. Don't be afraid to remove the internet from your life for a period of time- this means putting your foot down wherever necessary, with courage (and without excuses). I decided to have my phone locked off, I got rid of my internet, and stored my computers outside the house to minimize temptation- even then I had no lasting success until I encountered the necessary humility and necessary thinking/coping skills learned during twelve step.
6. Refuse "porn forgiveness" or the attitude that "maybe porn isn't so bad"
7. Porn destroys our real-world sex incentive and prevents us from "building thinking" (or flirting). Being oversexed or overindulged in general damages our magnetism and ability to communicate with women.
8. If you have someone (offline) who you're comfortable discussing these habits with, that person won't likely have much useful to say to you. Don't be discouraged by this, instead you should JOURNAL your findings and continue to develop your understanding of all possible solutions.
9. Do not resign the fight. When it seems unwinnable remember that there is always a new path to explore- you will find your success.
10. Removing porn and masturbation will decrease infatuation (obsession) with sex and help us date and understand women in the real world.
11. To have lasting success we must become willing to humble ourselves to powers beyond our understanding. We must accept that we don't have all the answers- and that we cannot manage our addiction alone. This means becoming open minded to ideas that perhaps we were once sickened by- perhaps theological. The fight against porn is too horrific to fathom without an individualized component of spiritual or metaphysical magnitude. This is to fully unturn the stone of humility.
12. Helping others and talking about the problem (with those who are seeking help) will help us have what we need. "If you want something give it away". Become an enemy of the porn industry. Understand that we've been preyed on and fight back with courage and an open mind. Use every tool in the toolbox.
 
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