The Lord of the Rings Challenge

You are mistaking sex drive with urges.

An urge is an uncontrollable desire to PMO or to have sex, it's a compulsion that has autonomic physiological responses like dizziness, sweating, insomnia, restlessness.

An urge is not the same as sex drive, an urge it's a deranged expression of sexuality it's an expression of addiction, compulsion.

My sex drive is fine and the quantity of my urges are very minimal to non existent.

 

@til_im_free one thing is to have hunger and another one is to have an urge to eat a lot of candy, junk food or eating all day. One is natural the other is not

The same with urges and sex drive or healthy libido, they seam similar but are very different.

 

Day 73, couple of days till 75 days are done!

 

Nice one. Keep it up brother.

 

Day 02..(9 July 2022)..

 

Day 502. I head home today from my family vacation. This time I’m actually looking forward to getting back to my normal life.

 

Thanks a lot for the encouragement

 

day 1

Right now my goal is small: just no PMO for 7 days.

I will check in twice a day.

 

219

 

I think there is some truth to it, but I hope it's not all there is to it. Because it feels simmilar, when we start looking at some arousing stuff. Why do we start looking?

 

I wish that it would flip for us. That we would want freedom way more than pleasure. Is that even possible?

 

Good morning Fellowship.

I'm debating what to do. Woke up this morning and ended up ejaculating. Don't recall masturbating, unless I did it in my sleep. Definitely did not look at porn. Probably safe to keep my counter. I suppose I could argue my porn mind is far from changed . My fiancee and I have been abstaining from sex until we marry in a month. No doubt there was pent up tension to be released. What do you all think I should do?

 

Carry on bro. In sleep stuff happens and we carry on, where awake same stuff is either reset or relapse.You are good!

 

Day 72

 

34 days
Low urges yestarday, worked almost all the day. Today again in the office and I made some intervalic training (5km intense and 1.5km low), I'm exhausted but happy.

Today I will go to hangout with some friends, so looks like to be a good day.

Keep strong my brothers.

 

Quick checking, first day
Meditation- done
Gym - done
Pmo free- so far so good

May we all love freedom more than we love instant pleasure

 

Bro, I'm glad to know that your well. But just to put things in the right place, I'd like to mention that an urge is simply a strong desire that can lead to impulsive behavior or not, it's something that we should control, but not fear, since it's definitely healty. It has nothing to be with addiction crisis, which indeed have those very concerning symptoms that you mentioned. Vocabulary is something tricky, one may get lost with some terminology that's counterintuitive. Hope you keep well!

 

Ckeckin Out (in time - but yes I did not yesterday - and yes as you may guess that means I relapsed)

Day Feelin: Tired weak and ashamed
Journaling:
morning routine :
work-out/Cardio:
No Series/Games before 6pm(till 9pm):
NO PMO:

I dont feel good today... Im sure it comes from the relapse but also I went way too late to bed yesterday. I forgot time with a girl ( a girl who is married) we was palyin but after that I relapsed at 2.30 am.
It was rly funny but I should have ended it earlier...

I didnt felt that good before we started playin but I already promised her that we'll play so...

I think bein' in a bad mood, having less sleep, feeling lonely and going to bed late ARE my triggers.
At least im much more aware of them already...

Hmm - jep but whining wont help here.
Tomorrow will be a new day and each day has the possibility to be great or wonderful.

Greets out!

 

Day 338

 

Checking in day 238.