[90-CHALLENGE] THE NINETY DAYS CHALLENGE !

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  1. Risingbackup2

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  2. ineedclarity

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  3. Day 29/90
    Day 554 at attempting this challenge
    Day 190 weigh training (M, W, F)
    Lifestyle: reduced caffeine, alcohol and desserts
     
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  4. Merry Terry

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    Day 9.
    I joined this forum 271 days ago. Of those 271 days, I was 236 days without M’ing to P.
     
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  5. hermitthefrog

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    Hi everyone, I'm no longer active in this challenge but I wanted to share an experience with you, as this is the thread on which I've been most active during the past months and know the most people.

    17 days ago I completed the 90 days no PMO challenge. Going forward the plan has been to keep abstaining from PM while engaging in partnered sex.

    It's been a lot of fun doing the latter and no PM wasn't difficult.. until last night. I had been thinking about some camgirls that I used to follow and last night I spent a total of 2.5 hours looking at videos of some of these and other women online. I did not M or O.

    So this is a relapse of sorts.. what happened? I can think of several reasons for this:

    1. I was very tired from a weeks work and had had too many beers that evening.
    2. I was feeling lonely and a little frustrated about a recent sexual experience (even though most experiences have been pretty great).
    3. I was experiencing a kind of FOMO about no longer following these camgirls and models, more than real sexual craving although that was a part of it.
    4. I've read a bit about exposure to an addicting thing without "giving in" to the stimulus (to MO in this case) being helpful in overcoming addiction.
    5. The past few days I had been checking my phone more and more often and this particular evening I was doing a lot of this, which I believe is very similar to the novelty seeking behavior I used to engage in with P.

    Above circumstances led me to rationalize looking at nude videos of camgirls and models online.

    Even though I didn't touch myself or O, I cannot claim that this was just an exercise in restraint and deconditioning like I mentioned under point (4).
    This was about feeding the dopamine beast more than anything else.

    So what can I do to prevent this or worse from happening again?

    1. First of all I'm going to start the dopamine detox again. No more compulsive phone checking, just the necessary stuff at three set times a day.
    2. My meditation habit has been slacking, I'm going to spend more time on meditation again to become more present.
    3. I will revisit Mark Queppets Reforged Man course to remind myself of why I've chosen to cut out PMO.
    4. I will need to address the loneliness issue: my social life has become a lot more interesting and fun over recent months but I am now having difficulties being alone at home in the evenings.
    5. The sexual encounters the past 2.5 weeks have been good but superficial; what I really want is a relationship. This definitely something I need to work towards.
    6. I will need to drink less alcohol.

    So there it is, I need to go back to basics again and start a new NoPNoM streak today.
     
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  6. Tuinuane

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    35/90 days.
    Three things that happened today:
    I turned an year older.
    Reached my second longest streak. My longest being 100 days.
    Turned 1 year and 3 days on NoFap.
     
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  7. Black jack

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    11 days completed today my health is not okay but no urges towards p i am in control that's good news for me
     
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  8. yogiguru

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    Very disappointed..
    At last the ring I am fearing happened.
    I relapsed very badly.
    I was home alone for just half an hour and I relapsed.
    I masturbated to porn.
    I was on my way to complete day 25..
    Feeling very disgusting.
    Just for the sake of 1 minute pleasure I gave up the streak...
    I don't deserve this...
    Starting again Day 0.
     
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  9. yogiguru

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    Great post. It helps a lot..
     
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  10. John Call

    John Call Fapstronaut

    Day 20/90
    Today i broke my record, my longest streak in decades was 19 day :emoji_muscle:
     
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  11. AxBlaim

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    Day 13/90

    My sleep schedule is messed up, it’s all over the place but hey it’s better than relapsing
    Moving on...
     
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  12. BurgerChamp

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    Day 35/90 I finally had a wet dream after months of not having one. Not much of a load came out I suppose because my underwear didn't feel super wet and sticky like the last times I had wet dreams. Don't want to go on full details about my dream but it was my classmate from college who shared the same major as me and we were doing the thing. It felt weird but hey it's just a dream and I no longer feel shame or guilt for peculiar occurrences like this. This was like my first dream of having intercourse with a woman, too, in a very long ass time.

    When I woke up from the dream, I did not feel regret and it did not affect my mood, energy, and motivation at all for they day. I guess I could say that I'm day 0 on semen retention? but what really matters is that I'm porn free and not a masturbation addict no more and my brain is totally healed. Cheers!
     
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  13. Srisurya

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  14. John Call

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    Wet dream is a very good sign as it shows that you are on the right track and your mind started to act normal and is using ways of normal people to release extra semen.
    But pay attention it does not mean that you are totally healed, once addicted you are always addicted, and relapse can happen any time so stay vigilant, and beware from the chaser effect which occurs after wet dreams or having sex which can cause urges in the next couple of days, stay strong my friend you are doing very good so far.
     
  15. Blaze21

    Blaze21 Fapstronaut

    Day 6/90 let's go brothers! One more day to one week!
     
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  16. Nikhil クマー

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  17. Libius

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    Day 2 in progress. Feeling good. Can feel myself coming back. The energy is my fuel.
     
  18. Nekkhamma

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    70 days done...I bet I got one more in me. Keep doing good things, keep saying good things to myself and others, keep thinking good thoughts
     
  19. Prabal Baishya

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  20. bromor

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    So Day 0 no M
    Day 217 no P

    Ok I need to get serious. I did not watch any P but after I had sex yesterday I was so horny the whole day that I gave in an MO'd to toughts of having sex again. I know I have been slacking a little bit after I finished the first 90 day challenge. I have been repeating to myself that it's ok to get a little loose, its summer, you have to chill, you are not watching porn after all, its fine bla bla bla all that stuff. And although some of it may be true, it does not align well with my goals of NOT procrastinating much and staying very motivated to achieve my projects and things in life. It's not as if I have stopped working on them, but just doing it too slow. Also as @hermitthefrog mentioned in his last post, I also need to focus on an actual relationship rather than just having sex. I enjoy sex a lot right now as if I am making up for the past couple years of crappy sex life but this should not be the goal. So guys, yes you will heal your physical sexual issues in probably a little less or a little more than 90 days if you stay true to the challenge! BUT the other mental issues - pursuing sexual gratification and lust from women - do not dissapear that quickly. I am not saying you should not want sex or have sex, but try to do it in a more meaningful way so both you and your partner enjoy it more.

    @hermitthefrog I am with you bro. I will try to get serious again and redo the 90 day challenge starting today :))

    This is what I listened to today! Jacko really has that motivating voice!
    Make your life better than a movie!
     
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