sohardrn
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sohardrn

Fapstronaut, Male, from USA

Does anyone on NoFap use dating apps? Or ask out girls once a week? How? May 9, 2024 at 12:57 PM

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    1. sohardrn
      sohardrn
      urges are so fucking powerful today, i need a new strategy
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      2. sohardrn
        sohardrn
        Especially after being reminded my studying isn’t that hard, it’s just time-consuming and that made it scary. Overcome the fear and I’ll enjoy the studying.
        May 21, 2023
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      3. roofs
        roofs
        Your studying sounds exactly like my experience with my work right now, if I put in a decent amount of time it's actually fun and not scary anymore
        May 22, 2023
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      4. Khufu
        Khufu
        urges hit me the hardest when doing homework,my method i leave phone at home, i work at the library with my laptop, poeple always there and always looking at my screen when walking by its a natural instinct ,
        May 27, 2023
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    2. sohardrn
      sohardrn
      Super horny, not getting anything done, almost downloaded a dating app just now.
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      2. sohardrn
        sohardrn
        @roofs This site, food, and the gym lol
        May 21, 2023
      3. sohardrn
        sohardrn
        I was able to get through it. Back on my laptop, got a plan for the remainder of the day. Need to get into the flow with my work rn and I won't have anything to worry about. Don't ever give up!
        May 21, 2023
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      4. roofs
        roofs
        Sounds pretty good!
        May 21, 2023
    3. sohardrn
      sohardrn
      Day 34. If ever feel like you can’t do anything. Close your eyes and ask “what’s my best next move?” Then countdown from 5 and start moving.
    4. sohardrn
      sohardrn
      I’m on day 32. Passed the 1 month mark.
    5. sohardrn
      sohardrn
      Going to keep going past day 30. No more goals. I’m not shooting for day 90, to break my record, or 1 year.
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      2. sohardrn
        sohardrn
        I’m following what James Clear said in Atomic Habits. “We don’t rise to the levels of our goals but fall to the levels of our system.”
        May 15, 2023
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      3. sohardrn
        sohardrn
        I’ll keep following the healthy systems I’ve created for myself, adjusting them only for the better.
        May 15, 2023
    6. sohardrn
      sohardrn
      Day 29. Nocturnal emission this morning. Don’t even remember any graphic images. Just remember waking up, it happening, and sleeping again.
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      3. Legacy of Lost Soul
        Legacy of Lost Soul
        Nocturnal emission usually stem from the mind..fanstasizing, not being 100% strict. Its good to try to minimize them. There were some deep posts on forum from one chinees guy here. Try to find em.
        May 20, 2023
      4. Legacy of Lost Soul
        Legacy of Lost Soul
        But I agree, dont bash yourself for it, u have good attitude towards that.
        May 20, 2023
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      5. sohardrn
        sohardrn
        Feel a lot better after spending some time today cleaning my room and reorganizing stuff. It’s mot fun but it is so much better after you’ve done it.
        May 20, 2023
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    7. sohardrn
      sohardrn
      Day 28. Whenever you’re this close to day 30, all you can think is “unbelievable” “finally” and just so happy and proud of what you’ve done.
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    8. sohardrn
      sohardrn
      Day 25. Definitely still in the Flatline. Easy to no PMO, but not easy to get things done.
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    9. sohardrn
      sohardrn
      Struggling to get out of bed after 8hrs of sleep. I wakeup after 6hr, realize I need more, back to bed. Wakeup after 9hrs & phone till 10hrs
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      3. sohardrn
        sohardrn
        @{Ananta} Dude I’ve had the most productive day in my life. Even read a bit yesterday and expect to do more tmrw.
        May 12, 2023
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      4. Khufu
        Khufu
        i taught myself to speed read, im able to read more of my books and college work
        May 13, 2023
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      5. sohardrn
        sohardrn
        I try not to speed read. It’s crazy what you can learn and the connections you make with other ideas when you really absorb the material. But when it comes to college work, I understand. Some majors like PreLaw and PreMed will expect a nigh unreasonable amount of reading.
        May 13, 2023
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    10. sohardrn
      sohardrn
      Had a trigger. Really want to start up a dating app. I’ll keep the urge at bay. Looking in the past, those apps are like a tasty poison.
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    11. sohardrn
      sohardrn
      Day 23. Had a wet dream which has slowed me down. But, closing in on Day 30 in a week, which is pretty dope.
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      2. Khufu
        Khufu
        im rooting for you
        May 9, 2023
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      3. Khufu
        Khufu
        dont forget to eat all your Sashimi.
        May 9, 2023
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    12. sohardrn
      sohardrn
      Day 21. Flatline is back in full-force. But if I can willpower through it today and keep up with the things I need to do, I’ll be back.
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    13. sohardrn
      sohardrn
      Day 17. Swamped with exams week. I can get through this though. Won’t be easy, and also I’m asking out a girl I like tomorrow.
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      3. sohardrn
        sohardrn
        She’s with someone else lol. Tbh, my first thought when I was certain was “dammit, you gotta be kidding me” my second thought was “whew” pure relief. I found out before I confessed to her, and I also was uncertain about being in a relationship as a whole.
        May 7, 2023
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      4. sohardrn
        sohardrn
        I’m currently super busy grinding for a CollegeBoard CLEP exam so I can skip a class, and have other passions I want to put more time toward my martial arts training, planning events for my martial arts club, and actually setting aside time for a fun side project I’ve wanted to do for years.
        May 7, 2023
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      5. sohardrn
        sohardrn
        I felt I almost had to ask her out or I’d be betraying myself, I felt like I couldn’t forgo the opportunity or I’d regret it, so I’m kind of happy it’s no longer an active choice I have to make. I can step away from her and focus on my passions for the Summer.
        May 7, 2023
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    14. sohardrn
      sohardrn
      2 weeks. Flatline hitting hard. Not enjoying music, working out, or studying. Need to study. Finals week. At the Gym rn. Sleep @ Midnight.
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      sohardrn
      Relapsed after 45 days, then relapsed on 4 other days in the 2 weeks following. Was super stressed and shit. Back now. i hit 1 wk tmrw
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      3. sohardrn
        sohardrn
        @Mr. Monk Maybe that’s a good way to look at it. I’m still the same dude that broke 30 days not too long ago.
        Feb 19, 2023
      4. sohardrn
        sohardrn
        @SilentWolfSong Martial arts, but I hold a leadership position in the club I’m a part of so it’s a source of stress sometimes too lol
        Feb 19, 2023
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      5. SilentWolfSong
        SilentWolfSong
        lol hey that's cool that you're in a leadership position! I've always wanted to do that, so I'll push my future kids into doing that lol
        Feb 19, 2023
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    17. sohardrn
      sohardrn
      Relapsed after 45 days
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      3. Deleted Account
        Deleted Account
        Brother you did a magnificent streak, I want you to know that. I struggle to get rid of porn, I'm only abstaining from M and O. And YOU were abstaining from PMO like a chief.
        Feb 3, 2023
      4. Deleted Account
        Deleted Account
        Like @David3xR-UK and @Halim212 said, 45 days is an amazing feat. You've done it once and you can do it again and then go beyond!
        Feb 3, 2023
      5. Daddyisuehere
        Daddyisuehere
        hey..it will be fine.. 45days the process will still be with you..let's go back to the road...don't think about going back to relapse...
        Feb 4, 2023
    18. sohardrn
      sohardrn
      Today's urges are hell, thought the 50% mark (45d) would help me but this borderline hurts. This does hurt. Sometimes my will to live wanes.
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      2. Deleted Account
        Deleted Account
        Remember it is not YOU who craves PMO. Your urges are feeling 'hungry'. Sooner or later the urges will get the message and back down. Until then, keep struggling bro
        Feb 2, 2023
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      3. sohardrn
        sohardrn
        @M_H literally typed it in then stopped to open the site just now. Your comment might of saved me lmao, for sure putting my phone away and going to sleep now. Gn
        Feb 2, 2023
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      4. Deleted Account
        Deleted Account
        That's good bro, have a rest. Sometimes sleep is needed to shut the brain for a bit. Goodnight
        Feb 2, 2023
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    19. sohardrn
      sohardrn
      A minute ago I made a post in my journal outlining a change in my goals. No dating in 2023. Self-improvement all the way through.
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    20. sohardrn
      sohardrn
      Gonna wakeup to day 45. Halfway through my 90 day reboot. Enjoying life and feeling more confident.Urges are strong, but I’m stronger.
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    1. No Porn.
    2. No Masturbation.
    3. No Dating Apps.

    For 90 Days.


    1. Porn fucks up anyone’s head.
    2. Masturbation leaves me content, but fucks up my baseline. This stops my movement toward women. This stops my self-improvement. This stops my progress in all areas of life. I maintain where I’m at if I’m masturbate. I say don’t orgasm until you acquire a girlfriend you’re content with it. In the extra time between then keep building skills, money, and equity.
    3. Dating apps make me a slave to my phone. The fragmentation of my attention is bad. It tugs and tugs at my needs for love until I masturbate.

    I will satiate my human need for love not with masturbation, but with time forming deep connections with people of my choice.

    Porn fucks up your mind.

    It matters not if I’m unable to use dating apps at peak times like the start of Summer or the start of the semester. It only frees me up to get stronger in other ways as opposed to my competitors. Whether this is by abstinence, by educating, or by getting ahead in my career. I am getting stronger, which readies me for stronger mates. Think about my first date in freshman year, to the second date I had in junior year. Yes, there was a dry spell, but the the quality in women I was dating increased dramatically.

    Yes, you need love and intimacy. But don’t sacrifice your strength for it. In fact, strengthen yourself in the process. Fuck masturbation. Be around people of your choice.

    Remember how much you’ve woke up early, remember the countless hours you’ve spent in the gym, remember your cold showers.

    YOU ARE IN-CHARGE.

    A Thought On Dating Apps.
    The girls I ask out in-person are usually also on dating apps, or have been on dating apps which affects how they interact with you even as you approach them outside the app.
    I say, get stronger. So you can ask out women outside apps with less trouble. Rack up a streak while my classes are online, so when I’m back in class, I’m fucking ready. When Summer ends, I’m even more fucking ready. When I graduate, I’m a god.

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