honesty

Hi everybody, I am new here and ready to begin taking the NoFap journey seriously. I fell that I need to make my confession somewhere in order to begin my recovery journey and I hope this is a safe place to say some things. I don't feel like I have anybody in my life yet with whom I am can be...

This journal is intended for myself, but I want to put it where others can see in order to release internal burden. I hope one day to be a man with no secrets, who can say each action he did throughout the day with pride, and admit to all his faults. I am not that man yet, but hope to get...

I talk mostly about men here. Because most of the time porn users/addicts are men. I am also talking about my experience. I was for the most of my life just an dishonest man. I lied a lot. I wanted to hide my porn use for everybody. Luckily, I didn’t had a relationship when I used porn, so I...

Hey there! I've started to reboot several times in the last two years but this streak is different. No urges, no carvings and also no meditation, no cold showers, no magic bullets. I just get in real contact with my wife - for the first time. We speak a lot about my nofap journey, about PMO and...

Last night my wife went to hang out with some friends of ours from work (we work together). Since she was going to be with them I decided to go to my buddies house to chill with him. He frequently smokes weed and almost always does when I'm over there. My wife and I were both raised in a very...

Hey Everyone! I decided to join this forum after looking for support groups on meetup and found none. So, I'm going to give my basic overview and my current goal is to read through more Newbies posts and give comments, support, and encouragement. I'd appreciate any feedback and support that you...

My wife and I are jn a very delicate place. Every time she asks something from me I explode. But like 5 minutes later I see her point and so I apoligize. My problem is I suffer from people pleasing, and saying what people want to hear to make them happy. Because of the mood swings I'm not sure...

When I fail I struggle with how much detail to give. She wants to know every graphic detail. Which is hard for her to hear. I had an 3 casual hookups several years back with men. Through a lot of counseling and healing I have made many positive steps forward with my sexuality and I'm working...

I don’t necessarily know if I’m addicted to porn because I don’t feel that it’s taking up a huge portion of my life (usually I view it once every two weeks), but I also know that it can get very worse and have more harmful effects. I joined this site in order to find others to talk to. I’ve been...

he told me "At the beginning I thought there could be something between us, but there wasn't". I dated this guy for about a month and we had s. twice. i had a feeling for the first time in my life that someone i was intimate with was opening up to me (he showed me after 1st s. album of photos of...

Hi guys I've been experimenting with nofap now for about two years. My longest stretch was about 300 days until I relapsed in spectacular style. I managed a couple of stints since then but haven't managed to retain the magic. I tried everything to bolster my efforts. Meditation, hitting the...

It seems like everyone has a story and it is always from their point of view. Some make themselves look like the person who was wronged and some are the ones doing the wrong. Neither way does anyone come out better than the other. It is interesting how I have been described as a selfish person...

Hey, all! As many of you know, it is extremely difficult to talk about the PMO addiction to anyone - especially to those you love. You have been hurt so much by this garbage and you do not want to hurt your beloved SO even further. After all, you re there to protect them and to take care of...

Hallo! So my husband asked me a few difficult questions on porn and now I am posting my answers here. This is not an easy subject to write about. It is an even more difficult subject to discuss with your life partner, especially if it is the first time. I've been on the block for a few years...

When I first started on NoFap, it was the hardest thing I've ever done. I struggled to even go past one day it just felt "wrong" you know. Everything was a trigger for me and everything in and around me said "masturbation is healthy, porn is normal, curb your emotions naturally, express your...

I have written the benefits one has when they quit porn and masturbation after 30 days. There are still the same when you quit 60 days, but there are more benefits as well. Here are some you gain when you quit after 60 days: 1) More time: This is a benefit that starts day one when you quit...

Jocko Podcast 17 - With Echo Charles | Band of Brothers | Losing the Fight Prioritise and execute Get rid of what you do not need to accomplish your task Hit the enemy on the flank Know your objective Understand you and your men to get the most out of yourself and others Honesty and...

"You're Only As Sick As Your Secrets" This amazing phrase comes out of The 12 Step tradition. Although I have not gone through D&A addiction issues...we all know that porn addiction can be just as bad, if not worse. Like with gambling, we become addicted to the "high" that our own brains...

I am a big believer in telling the truth, being honest, etc. I realized something just now: When I watch porn or have a mental fantasy about porn/sex, I am tricking myself. I trick myself into thinking that those girls from the porno are really there. Sometimes I even have fantasies about what...

I have had an issue over the last few days about honesty & openness and hurt. I know lots of the porn addicts and partners of porn addicts think that honesty and openness are supremely important in a relationship and in recovery. Over the last few weeks I have experienced strong urges. They...

Well today is day 128 with no PMO, but only day 5 with no P. I'm trying to do a log here daily, to keep myself accountable in more ways than one. I spend some time this morning with a friend listening to and talking about quality music. Stayed away from porn today so far. I'm trying to stay...

Addiction is like a piece of the chain that binds you. In order to win the struggle with your current addiction, you have to work to get rid of the other ones as well. As doing good inspires and pushes you to do more good, so doing bad inspires and pushes you to do more bad. So for example, if...

My BF rarely says what's bothering him or voluntarily admits his wrongdoing at first, especially what he considers "shameful behaviors". Often I have to drag it out of him *by force*. When I want my BF to talk, I basically have to have some kind of an ultimatum ready to serve, otherwise I won't...