intimacy

I originally started NoFap to break a porn addiction when I started dating seriously in college and started my first sexual relationship. It worked and now we are married. I’ve been on a path of self development and stoicism. Losing weight exercise philosophy etc… and I’ve realized my mentality...

I just feel so screwed. I quit PMO for good a little while ago, maybe a month or two - I stopped counting. I've been trying for years and finally kicked it and have no interest in porn or anything else for that matter. Which is the problem. I don't remember the last time I watched porn but I...

"... is to become an amazing person." - Mark Manson [https://markmanson.net/how-to-find-the-one] Thoughts anyone? I like it. It's counter-intuitive yet it feels true to me. Manson says earlier in the article that "[...] everyone wants a perfect partner, but few people want to be the perfect...

Hey everyone! I dont know if this was the right category to post this but here goes. I've been struggling with PMO for quite a while and I think that the main cause is my abusive childhood. I went through quite a bit of bullying and abuse and as a result I developed a subconcious...

In my home, because of the religion (islam) and culture, there was never talked about sex. I learned it all from porn. I started watching at the age of 11. But it was not a good lesson for me. Porn never teached how real sex should be. I learned to have instant gratification. I watched those...

I read a lot of advices here from men that say: Don’t focus on women, focus on yourself, your growth, your goals. Women are a waste of time. And it is precisely these men that I see relapsing every time.. How crazy is that? Is it to convince yourself not to focus on women? Who are you kidding...

‘If you are lonely when you are alone, you are in bad company’ by Jean-Paul Sartre. I’m holding on to this quote. There were times in my journey that I feel so lonely and those led me to a relapse. Usually I feel a certain kind of loneliness when I immediately wake up in the morning (like today...

Hi Fellow Fapstronauts, I’m 33 and have been married for nearly four years, in a relationship for five. I have two daughters. Last weekend at a friend’s wedding I got extremely drunk. I remember trying to have sex with my wife in our hotel room one minute, and the next thing I knew I was on...

I am 29, married for one 1 year, been together with my wife for 7 years. I am struggling with depression. I hate porn though I have to admit to myself that I am addicted to it to a lesser degree. I often say to myself 'porn is poison'. I firmly hold this belief. It is a new plague. The fifth...

Husband quit because I asked him to. I know everyone will say that he is lying but you don't know him. He doesn't believe in lying and has quit other addictions cold turkey that could kill other men. He sets his mind to something and that's it. He is doing it out of respect for me but he...

So... My husband has stopped watching porn. He doesn't think anything is wrong with it and has never hidden it from me. He only hid it on the browser history after I asked him to, years ago when every time I stubbled upon it, felt like a knife. Our sex life is empty. He says that he has low sex...

Quick question: can anyone tell me where to find the intimacy anorexia workbook? It will be the difference between divorce or a long happy marriage. I am sure of that.

Hi everyone, hope everyone is doing well. I am currently over a month on this streak. I don’t keep track of the days, I noticed I sort of naturally forgot what day I’m on and I don’t ever really think of whatever day I’m on because truthfully, it doesn’t matter. I would say the past month and...

Hey guys, another question. I’ve been thinking a lot about the consequences of PMO, and it’s started to lead me towards thinking about the origins of my insecurities. I know a lot of us carry a fear of intimacy, vulnerability, and being “seen” or “exposed.” I think back on my life and try to...

Just a quick few bullet points from an article I thought I’d share. I encourage others to read these bullet points and just try to think about them without judging yourself (bad or good). Really try to see them and see who you are behind these images or conditions you’ve put yourself in...

Well let me start by saying I am a older man. I don’t feel old but when I look in the mirror the reality in there. Lol. I have only recently realized I have a porn addiction. I do have problems with obtaining and keeping an erection. I also find a disconnect between my mind and body when it...

I am the wife of a PA & we are fairly new to this journey. Currently we are having sex; we both thought it was almost necessary for us to heal & connect. However, it was mentioned by our therapist that we abstain from any sexual behaviors for 30 days. Um,, what? I totally get the PA refraining...

Hey there. A secondary goal of kicking the sexual addiction for me has been to be in a healthy romantic relationship. Not too long after 90 days of no PMO I started talking with an acquaintance. (Small detail I did have 1 relapse right at the beginning.) That talking showed that we were both...

I watched a video about betrayal trauma. My wife acts like she doesn’t care about my masturbation or porn viewing. She doesn’t like that i did it, but she doesn’t want to know the details or talk about it. I confessed about how long i had struggled with masturbation because i wanted her to know...

Dear all, I said to myself I would stop watching porn a week ago as an experiment. I challenged my best friend to join me and he refused (!)... and yesterday, guess what, discovered NoFap! I am so glad you all exist. I thought I was weird and alone to experiment with ditching porn. I realized it...

Hello everyone, I'm a college student studying Physics in New York City. I'm hoping to find a community here to support my no PMO goals. I've stopped and started PMO for years now, always justifying it in some way or another, but it has become such a negative thing in my life that I cannot...

For me it has had many terrible effects. First of all severe DE, no sensuality while having sex, no passion, no intimacy, no desire at all to give pleasure to my ex-gf. It would even piss me off to have to touch her vagina and clitoris. No foreplay at all, I would try to penetrate her almost...

Hey all, So my husband is new to the reboot, to get our history/my story - please check out my journal. Long story short, I've caught him PM'ing / lying /denying way too many times. He's on his last leg with me, us; our marriage. After our latest D-Day, he joined this forum in the hopes of...

Especially at the minute from 2:06 i know watching p fucked my brain up and changed my s. tastes and what was able to excite me. before p i wasn't like that. thanks to my reboot hard mode i have been able to get back at the true me the good person i am (btw i am a girl) when i started being...

Greetings NoFap Community, I am new here, and I hope to gain some insight into methods for effective abstinence from porn and masturbation. As embarrassing as it is to say, frequent pornography use has led to problems in my sex life with my girlfriend. If I have been viewing pornography and...

Hi guys, I actually stumbled across this website a few hours ago and I feel like a weight has been lifted off me. I recently split with my partner of 5 years and it has been a horrendous time for me. The reason for the split came down to my inability to get intimate with her. And why could I...

I just awoke the morning of my 31st day PM free! I dreamt I was masturbating and I stopped stroking because I don't want to fap. Now I know I'm changing for the better because I'm doing NoFap in my dreams. I've been having incredible sex with my wife, twice some days. My premature ejaculation is...

**SPOILER** Met this girl for the second time. First time she met me she basically jumped on me in my house. Kissing, etc. It was literally straight away I had her top off. She was putting up a bit of playful resistance and was adamant no sex as first date 'I'm not a slut' usual female societal...

Hi, One of the main drivers of my urge to PMO is the lack of physical and emotional intimacy I have in my life. I moved to a new city five months ago and have built a new social circle (including men and women) from scratch, which is great. However I don't get to see these people often due to...

After a long absence and run......I've returned. I'm in a relationship with a woman that is the woman I should have always been with. Like me, nerdy, somewhat disappointed by humanity, but a perfect fit. This is a motivating relationship to give her my ALL. We don't have sex because of my...

Sometimes I feel like I lose sight of why I've started nofap. But I always find a way to remind myself of why I started, and what my goals are. That's why I'm a part of this community. I wanted to share with you all a clip of one of my favorite authors, Jordan Peterson-- a very skillful...

Hello, I am new here. In fact this is my first post. I am struggling with PMO since early childhood. I can't really remember, I think I was 11 when I discovered M. P came later along with high speed internet. I remember I couldn't stop for years to watch porn. I finally stopped when in my...