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Relapsed twice yesterday. I really need to step up my self discipline. I haven’t kept myself busy and productive enough
 
TAKE A MINUTE TO READ THIS. I relapsed today, and of course, i feel like shit. But on the positive side, this relapse is a wake up call. On the 27th of december 2019, I remember i jerked off twice that day, and i left like a worthless piece of trash. I fel so ashamed of myself. It was on that same day as well that I was going to the mountains with my family for new year's. It felt like shit. Just because of my fapping. This is the day i realized i had a huge problem. I had suffered from many symptoms as a result of constant porn and fapping, but it never crossed my mind that these symptoms were occurring because of porn, AND i would always think that its a part of growing up .Some of the symptoms include extreme social anxiety, mood swings, constant tiredness, weakness, zero motivation, tendencies to please others, and caring a lot about what people thought about me. I got tired of feeling like absolute shit all the time and I decided it was time for change since I never left like this before my fapping days. Before I began fapping and watching porn, I was the most energetic kid, and I was always socializing. I liked seeing people and hanging out with people. I had an abundance of energy. In football games, I would never stop running, and I would always be excited to get on the pitch. Now im rarely ever excited to do anything that does not involve porn or video games. As a result of porn, I have become a toxic person, a depressed sad shit, an angry person, an unmotivated lazy person, and worse of all, I became a cunt. Porn eliminated all the gratitude i had in me. I was always thankful of what I have and what my parents do for me, but porn took that away from me. In short, i basically became everything your parents tell you not to be. I decided to quit porn that same day, but at the beginning i approached it as a challenge. I was belittling nofap, and I thought that I could easily abstain from porn. Rather than changing my life around, with nofap being a tool out of many tools, I treated nofap as if it were the only tool to change my life around. In fact, at the beginning, I did not change anything in my life, except for fapping. I stuck to my old ways and hoped that i would be able to achieve abstinence from porn. I eventually figured that in order for to be able to change my life around, i needed to be disciplined and think about the longterm success. Nofap is not going to make your life better alone. Combine it with self-discipline, self mastery and positive, productive routines, and it can change your life 180 degrees. Porn and jerking off makes you hate your own life. We are not supposed to be like this. Porn makes you a loser that no one wants to be around. I got to a point where my family did not enjoy my presence around them, and i felt it. I am now choosing to change my life around. I want to be happy again. I have had a miserable life in the last couple of years, and this is going to change. I am going to be happy again. I will succeed. I will stop fooling around and doing things to get instant gratification all the time. Instead of playing video games, I will read. I will go to the gym again to release some energy. I will dedicate myself to self-improvement. I will master it, but only through hard work and effort. I will achieve my goals and i will control my emotions and feelings rather than them controlling me. I have had enough of my fapping days. But with that being said, I acknowledge the importance of having breaks in order not to burnout and lose sight of my goal. I do understand that it is crucial to reward myself when I have worked hard enough, and I do understand that I need to have regular moments of entertainment and of doing something fun in order to not live a life where no matter how hard i work, i will never be satisfied. It is important to acknowledge hard work and give ourselves pauses. But don't have breaks all the time, Like i was doing for some time. I would work a bit, and then have an extended break, and then I would allow myself to get back to old habits. When you wake up in the morning, instead of immediately going on your phone and getting on instagram, go take a cold shower and pray/meditate. I find that to be very useful. Sometimes you might say to yourself that you'll work in 20 minutes, but then the 20 minutes pass and you start procrastinating. The best way to stop procrastinating is to get started. Start working for just five minutes and you will realize that you can continue working. Get disciplined and do productive things. Don't on the couch the whole day and watch tv, but that doesn't mean that you don't have to watch tv. You have to figure out some sort of balance, and remember to not be too harsh on yourself. YOU DONT TO LIVE A LIFE THAT YOU WILL REGRET, SO YOU BETTER GET WORKING. Get rid of this fucking porn shit on your devices. MASTER YOURSELVES. As of April the 9th, I am a new MAN. (march 2015- April 2021), the fapping days are over.
 
Bob12345 said:
TAKE A MINUTE TO READ THIS. I relapsed today, and of course, i feel like shit. But on the positive side, this relapse is a wake up call. On the 27th of december 2019, I remember i jerked off twice that day, and i left like a worthless piece of trash. I fel so ashamed of myself. It was on that same day as well that I was going to the mountains with my family for new year's. It felt like shit. Just because of my fapping. This is the day i realized i had a huge problem. I had suffered from many symptoms as a result of constant porn and fapping, but it never crossed my mind that these symptoms were occurring because of porn, AND i would always think that its a part of growing up .Some of the symptoms include extreme social anxiety, mood swings, constant tiredness, weakness, zero motivation, tendencies to please others, and caring a lot about what people thought about me. I got tired of feeling like absolute shit all the time and I decided it was time for change since I never left like this before my fapping days. Before I began fapping and watching porn, I was the most energetic kid, and I was always socializing. I liked seeing people and hanging out with people. I had an abundance of energy. In football games, I would never stop running, and I would always be excited to get on the pitch. Now im rarely ever excited to do anything that does not involve porn or video games. As a result of porn, I have become a toxic person, a depressed sad shit, an angry person, an unmotivated lazy person, and worse of all, I became a cunt. Porn eliminated all the gratitude i had in me. I was always thankful of what I have and what my parents do for me, but porn took that away from me. In short, i basically became everything your parents tell you not to be. I decided to quit porn that same day, but at the beginning i approached it as a challenge. I was belittling nofap, and I thought that I could easily abstain from porn. Rather than changing my life around, with nofap being a tool out of many tools, I treated nofap as if it were the only tool to change my life around. In fact, at the beginning, I did not change anything in my life, except for fapping. I stuck to my old ways and hoped that i would be able to achieve abstinence from porn. I eventually figured that in order for to be able to change my life around, i needed to be disciplined and think about the longterm success..
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I could completely relate with this. I also had this transformation when I was in high school. I turned from an energetic social kid to a depressed nerd. Porn kills your good emotions and makes you feel dead. But how did you relapse, man?
 
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