Thanks for your advice. I do think my SO does see how much I am putting into this and my recovery. I have done so much research and talking with him. We have hit speed bumps, but I am proud that he found an AP on his own, got off social media on his own, and is clearly putting in the work. Today he thanked me for still being here with him. Something about that sentence just made me feel appreciated for the first time in a while. I'm sorry to hear your story. I can honestly say me and my SO did have many struggles in the past with PMO and discussing his issues. It's difficult because society tells men it's normal and they believe it. The only thing that got through to my SO after our insane D-day was me saying this is compulsive and not normal. I had to speak out of fact instead of emotion which was probably the most difficult conversation. I wish you good luck in your journey with your SO and your healing.