REAL, GENUINE BENEFITS I'VE EXPERIENCED

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by iaj, Jan 2, 2018.

  1. iaj

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    I'm on my 2nd journey of nofap. 79 days in so far and the New Year will help me stay determined with a fresh calendar that's easier to track.

    Prior to noticing any benefits, be patient. First you've got to go through the difficult transition of nofap. But when that 'breaking point' kicks in, you'll be rewarded with benefits. Here are some benefits (past and present) that I've witnessed from experience.

    But first, a quick diagram...

    FAPPING FEELS LIKE:
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    NO FAPPING FEELS LIKE:
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    TIME
    Before
    "How long is this video clip?" Time felt like it was slipping away click after click, fap after fap. And when you try to quit, you get obsessed with counting the days of being without porn.
    After
    "How long do I have left to live?" Time actually has purpose now. It's a calculation for opportunities. After a while, you stop counting the days of how long it's been since you've been without porn. And b
    elow will explain how I use my time instead now...

    ENERGY
    Before
    'Eat, sleep, fap, repeat.' With every decision to fap, my energy spiked - the urge of excitement kicked in only to last a short while until it dipped plunged! Then I felt ashamed, sluggish and depressed.
    After
    Nofap will give you energy long term. Although it's gradual, I'm more enthusiastic about doing things such as working out, socialising or running errands. Life begins to feel more varied and less repetitive.

    SLEEP
    Before
    I had random bouts of insomnia. My answer to this was a weary eyed fap which led to a sudden sleep but a very reluctant rise the next morning.
    After
    The days of insomnia are gone. I sleep better because I burn energy better. Long term energy gives you long term rest. If insomnia kicks in now, I do something more creative or productive. This is due to the controlled energy I now have.

    RELATIONSHIPS

    Before
    I used to avoid so many incoming phone calls because I was either pre-fap, mid-fap or post-fap. I would then call or text back with an excuse of why I missed someone's call.

    After
    Now I answer the phone willingly and actually have a conversation with people. No more calling or texting people back with excuses. The same can be said for real life - I'm willing to meet up with people, I'm on time to events and I'm less anxious when I turn up.

    VOICE
    Before / After
    (I have not noticed any change in my voice becoming deeper like some forums online have stated. My voice is the same. Perhaps it's affected by other benefits below...)

    ATTRACTION

    Before
    If I saw someone I was sexually attracted to, I thought exactly that - sexual attraction. It was the be-all and end-all of my potential interaction with them. Because of that fantasised end-goal, I became anxious* and nervous. When I got home, I would sometimes search for a porn-star or category that reminded me of that person instead and I fapped until I felt stupid for missing out on the interaction I could've had with them.
    After
    I see people more equally. I notice them for who they are - reasons beyond sexual desires. People are not sexual objects anymore. It's so satisfying looking at someone you're attracted to in the eye and proving to them (and yourself) that you're not a pervert. You become a better communicator, both verbally and non-verbally. Then inevitably they become attracted to you because of it.

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    ANXIETY*
    Before
    Whether it was situational or random, my breathing sometimes felt like it was irregular. My social anxiety was unpredictable and I would avoid so many situations. I even had a slight stutter when speaking and I didn't project my voice confidently*.

    After
    I feel less anxious. That's right - less, not zero. It's impossible not to feel anxiety or fear. It's a part of being human. However now it's more manageable and explainable. I feel anxious for good reasons. Such as, pushing myself to get out of my comfort zone with public speaking or attempting to hold the attention in a group conversation. I feel anxious for the right reasons and it's on a small scale which I can override, rather than have it override me.

    CONFIDENCE*
    Before
    I was just a body sitting in front of a laptop screen. I lacked confidence because I wasn't worth it. How could I possibly look myself in the mirror and take myself seriously knowing that I carry around a naughty teenage habit? I always lacked self-esteem because of what I knew about myself. Others didn't know this about me but if I can't respect myself then how can I expect others to?
    After
    Knowing that I've overcome a week, a month and longer, is enough to give me confidence. Knowing that I'm in control of my life and habits rather than 'it' having control of me, fills me with pride. Self-esteem has increased and I'm learning about who I am and who I want to be. I can look in the mirror comfortably. I can stand my ground and have people look at me because I'm okay with who I am now. This is easily one of the best benefits: self-respect and self-worth.

    APPEARANCE

    Before
    I would sometimes appear publicly as a scruffy, unshaved guy wearing creased-clothes. I didn't make a consistent effort; I was a hit and miss. Even if I was freshly dressed for an occasion, I felt dirty inside.

    After
    I now have time to shave regularly. I choose my attire rather than rushing to get ready - opting for the same clothing over and over. I even make time to iron clothes. Not only do I look presentable on the outside, but I've convinced myself that I'm worthy of a nicer appearance and I'm not trying to fool anyone this time.

    NUTRITION
    Before
    My fapping habits would make me skip meals or opt for whatever was quick and easy.

    After
    I make time to eat healthier meals. I eat regularly and even try out cooking different recipes or host people for dinners.

    CLEANLINESS
    Before
    Similar to above - I didn't have or make time for being frequently clean. Once in a while I would tidy my room but it didn't take long for it to get dirty again. My kitchen sink was regularly full of dishes and the smallest of chores made me feel like I had to run a marathon.

    After
    My bedroom/home is cleaner. I regularly tidy and wash my dishes. I tackle these household chores with acceptance - I can't avoid them anymore so I procrastinate less.

    FREEDOM
    Porn will imprison you unless you escape and never look back. Escaping is extremely testing but it's worth every moment of freedom that you get rewarded with.

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    My other posts...

    WHY I'M GLAD I RELAPSED: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/why-im-glad-i-relapsed.151499/#post-1253269


    TOP TIPS FOR NEWBIES: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/top-tips-for-newbies.140967/#post-1135734

    HOW TO GET YOUR TIME BACK: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/how-to-get-your-time-back.150269/#post-1239527

    360 VIRTUAL REALITY PORN: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/360-virtual-reality-porn.142536/

    ROUGH PORN: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/rough-porn.142538/#post-1153459

    HOW I GOT ADDICTED TO PORN: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/soft-core-to-hardcore-how-i-got-addicted-to-porn.137066/

    HOW HABITS WORK: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/how-habits-work.149202/

    THE PROBLEM WITH NOFAP: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...benefits-ive-experienced.148708/#post-1225891
     
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  2. Ghost79

    Ghost79 Fapstronaut

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    Super post :emoji_muscle:
     
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  3. iaj

    iaj Fapstronaut

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    Thanks so much Hawx79. Even if just one person (such as yourself) reads it and benefits from it, it's worth my time.
     
  4. RAW99

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    Congratulations. is it a pmo thing?
    have you met a girl during or have you decided to let yourself feel a full recovery? and do semen retention?

    Post inspired me.
     
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  5. iaj

    iaj Fapstronaut

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    I met my GF during my 1st long streak of nofap. Then when I relapsed, I was determined to get back on top of it again as I noticed my addiction was affecting our relationship. She had no idea but I noticed. So I'm now abstaining again a 2nd time. I'm glad you felt inspired, thank you.
     
  6. Nebukadnessar

    Nebukadnessar New Fapstronaut

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    These are all goals I suppose many of us fapstronauts strive for. Keep up the good work! I'm on my way to a healthier life as well. It's very inspiring to read about your experiences
     
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  7. iaj

    iaj Fapstronaut

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    Thank you. There’s nothing special about me so you can achieve it too. Good luck
     
  8. talontron

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    Huge Congrats! I feel many of the same benefits as you(83 days in). Here is to us making it to 90 days!

    Here are some of the ones I have experienced, esp as of the last week.

    - Unbreakable confidence in my ability to achieve any goal I set for myself.
    - Women are extremely attractive (more so on the side of personality wise) and physically too.
    - Undying Optimism
    - Heightened awareness to reckognize bad habits/negative thinking and behaviors.
    - Want to socialize more and stop being on the computer/watch tv
    - Feeling a wide range of emotions, whereas before very numb.
    - Little things are really enjoyable
    - High on life and treat people amazingly well and want to start conversations with almost everyone.
     
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  9. iaj

    iaj Fapstronaut

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    I was hoping and waiting for someone to share their benefits. Thanks! Congrats to you too and I’ll see you in the 90’s club.
     
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    I also feel like relationships are 1000% better. People love talking to me now, its weird. I have to be the one to always leave the convo early (because I usually have things to do or time conflict), they just want to talk and forget all sense of time. It is a pretty awesome benefit.
     
  11. Thanks for the great post, it inspires me a lot knowing that you can experience all those good things! Congratulations.
     
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  12. talontron

    talontron Fapstronaut

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    are you going to continue your streak past 90 days? meaning no jacking off? I want to continue and give up porn and masturbation forever. The last week has been truly amazing and I feel like the mental benefits will only strengthen and develop more and put me into beastmode and kicking ass in life.
     
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  13. iaj

    iaj Fapstronaut

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    Thank you. Check out my other threads (top tips etc.) if you need any guidance on how I did it. Good luck :)
     
  14. iaj

    iaj Fapstronaut

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    Definitely! 90 days is just the beginning. I went 1.5 years without it and seeing the benefits slips away as I went back to old habits has made me determinded to make a permanent change.
     
  15. Ristox

    Ristox New Fapstronaut

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    This post is motivating, I'm always anxious to hear updates on your story and others, please make this into a stickie or regularly update...I appreciate it, friend.
     
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  16. iaj

    iaj Fapstronaut

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    Thank you, I appreciate that... feel free to read my other threads in the mean time
     
  17. eagerUser

    eagerUser Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for all the positive energy. A great true story.
     
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  18. Iguana

    Iguana Fapstronaut

    your "The problem with nofap" link seems to be wrong
     
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  19. Hitto

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    All if this is spot on more people who think it's not worth it should look at this
     
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  20. iaj

    iaj Fapstronaut

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    Thanks a lot Hitto
     
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