I'm on my 2nd journey of nofap. 79 days in so far and the New Year will help me stay determined with a fresh calendar that's easier to track.
Prior to noticing any benefits, be patient. First you've got to go through the difficult transition of nofap. But when that 'breaking point' kicks in, you'll be rewarded with benefits. Here are some benefits (past and present) that I've witnessed from experience.
But first, a quick diagram...
FAPPING FEELS LIKE:
NO FAPPING FEELS LIKE:
TIME
Before
"How long is this video clip?" Time felt like it was slipping away click after click, fap after fap. And when you try to quit, you get obsessed with counting the days of being without porn.
After
"How long do I have left to live?" Time actually has purpose now. It's a calculation for opportunities. After a while, you stop counting the days of how long it's been since you've been without porn. And below will explain how I use my time instead now...
ENERGY
Before
'Eat, sleep, fap, repeat.' With every decision to fap, my energy spiked - the urge of excitement kicked in only to last a short while until itdipped plunged! Then I felt ashamed, sluggish and depressed.
After
Nofap will give you energy long term. Although it's gradual, I'm more enthusiastic about doing things such as working out, socialising or running errands. Life begins to feel more varied and less repetitive.
SLEEP
Before
I had random bouts of insomnia. My answer to this was a weary eyed fap which led to a sudden sleep but a very reluctant rise the next morning.
After
The days of insomnia are gone. I sleep better because I burn energy better. Long term energy gives you long term rest. If insomnia kicks in now, I do something more creative or productive. This is due to the controlled energy I now have.
RELATIONSHIPS
Before
I used to avoid so many incoming phone calls because I was either pre-fap, mid-fap or post-fap. I would then call or text back with an excuse of why I missed someone's call.
After
Now I answer the phone willingly and actually have a conversation with people. No more calling or texting people back with excuses. The same can be said for real life - I'm willing to meet up with people, I'm on time to events and I'm less anxious when I turn up.
VOICE
Before / After
(I have not noticed any change in my voice becoming deeper like some forums online have stated. My voice is the same. Perhaps it's affected by other benefits below...)
ATTRACTION
Before
If I saw someone I was sexually attracted to, I thought exactly that - sexual attraction. It was the be-all and end-all of my potential interaction with them. Because of that fantasised end-goal, I became anxious* and nervous. When I got home, I would sometimes search for a porn-star or category that reminded me of that person instead and I fapped until I felt stupid for missing out on the interaction I could've had with them.
After
I see people more equally. I notice them for who they are - reasons beyond sexual desires. People are not sexual objects anymore. It's so satisfying looking at someone you're attracted to in the eye and proving to them (and yourself) that you're not a pervert. You become a better communicator, both verbally and non-verbally. Then inevitably they become attracted to you because of it.
ANXIETY*
Before
Whether it was situational or random, my breathing sometimes felt like it was irregular. My social anxiety was unpredictable and I would avoid so many situations. I even had a slight stutter when speaking and I didn't project my voice confidently*.
After
I feel less anxious. That's right - less, not zero. It's impossible not to feel anxiety or fear. It's a part of being human. However now it's more manageable and explainable. I feel anxious for good reasons. Such as, pushing myself to get out of my comfort zone with public speaking or attempting to hold the attention in a group conversation. I feel anxious for the right reasons and it's on a small scale which I can override, rather than have it override me.
CONFIDENCE*
Before
I was just a body sitting in front of a laptop screen. I lacked confidence because I wasn't worth it. How could I possibly look myself in the mirror and take myself seriously knowing that I carry around a naughty teenage habit? I always lacked self-esteem because of what I knew about myself. Others didn't know this about me but if I can't respect myself then how can I expect others to?
After
Knowing that I've overcome a week, a month and longer, is enough to give me confidence. Knowing that I'm in control of my life and habits rather than 'it' having control of me, fills me with pride. Self-esteem has increased and I'm learning about who I am and who I want to be. I can look in the mirror comfortably. I can stand my ground and have people look at me because I'm okay with who I am now. This is easily one of the best benefits: self-respect and self-worth.
APPEARANCE
Before
I would sometimes appear publicly as a scruffy, unshaved guy wearing creased-clothes. I didn't make a consistent effort; I was a hit and miss. Even if I was freshly dressed for an occasion, I felt dirty inside.
After
I now have time to shave regularly. I choose my attire rather than rushing to get ready - opting for the same clothing over and over. I even make time to iron clothes. Not only do I look presentable on the outside, but I've convinced myself that I'm worthy of a nicer appearance and I'm not trying to fool anyone this time.
NUTRITION
Before
My fapping habits would make me skip meals or opt for whatever was quick and easy.
After
I make time to eat healthier meals. I eat regularly and even try out cooking different recipes or host people for dinners.
CLEANLINESS
Before
Similar to above - I didn't have or make time for being frequently clean. Once in a while I would tidy my room but it didn't take long for it to get dirty again. My kitchen sink was regularly full of dishes and the smallest of chores made me feel like I had to run a marathon.
After
My bedroom/home is cleaner. I regularly tidy and wash my dishes. I tackle these household chores with acceptance - I can't avoid them anymore so I procrastinate less.
FREEDOM
Porn will imprison you unless you escape and never look back. Escaping is extremely testing but it's worth every moment of freedom that you get rewarded with.
My other posts...
WHY I'M GLAD I RELAPSED: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/why-im-glad-i-relapsed.151499/#post-1253269
TOP TIPS FOR NEWBIES: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/top-tips-for-newbies.140967/#post-1135734
HOW TO GET YOUR TIME BACK: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/how-to-get-your-time-back.150269/#post-1239527
360 VIRTUAL REALITY PORN: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/360-virtual-reality-porn.142536/
ROUGH PORN: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/rough-porn.142538/#post-1153459
HOW I GOT ADDICTED TO PORN: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/soft-core-to-hardcore-how-i-got-addicted-to-porn.137066/
HOW HABITS WORK: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/how-habits-work.149202/
THE PROBLEM WITH NOFAP: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...benefits-ive-experienced.148708/#post-1225891
Prior to noticing any benefits, be patient. First you've got to go through the difficult transition of nofap. But when that 'breaking point' kicks in, you'll be rewarded with benefits. Here are some benefits (past and present) that I've witnessed from experience.
But first, a quick diagram...
FAPPING FEELS LIKE:
NO FAPPING FEELS LIKE:
TIME
Before
"How long is this video clip?" Time felt like it was slipping away click after click, fap after fap. And when you try to quit, you get obsessed with counting the days of being without porn.
After
"How long do I have left to live?" Time actually has purpose now. It's a calculation for opportunities. After a while, you stop counting the days of how long it's been since you've been without porn. And below will explain how I use my time instead now...
ENERGY
Before
'Eat, sleep, fap, repeat.' With every decision to fap, my energy spiked - the urge of excitement kicked in only to last a short while until it
After
Nofap will give you energy long term. Although it's gradual, I'm more enthusiastic about doing things such as working out, socialising or running errands. Life begins to feel more varied and less repetitive.
SLEEP
Before
I had random bouts of insomnia. My answer to this was a weary eyed fap which led to a sudden sleep but a very reluctant rise the next morning.
After
The days of insomnia are gone. I sleep better because I burn energy better. Long term energy gives you long term rest. If insomnia kicks in now, I do something more creative or productive. This is due to the controlled energy I now have.
RELATIONSHIPS
Before
I used to avoid so many incoming phone calls because I was either pre-fap, mid-fap or post-fap. I would then call or text back with an excuse of why I missed someone's call.
After
Now I answer the phone willingly and actually have a conversation with people. No more calling or texting people back with excuses. The same can be said for real life - I'm willing to meet up with people, I'm on time to events and I'm less anxious when I turn up.
VOICE
Before / After
(I have not noticed any change in my voice becoming deeper like some forums online have stated. My voice is the same. Perhaps it's affected by other benefits below...)
ATTRACTION
Before
If I saw someone I was sexually attracted to, I thought exactly that - sexual attraction. It was the be-all and end-all of my potential interaction with them. Because of that fantasised end-goal, I became anxious* and nervous. When I got home, I would sometimes search for a porn-star or category that reminded me of that person instead and I fapped until I felt stupid for missing out on the interaction I could've had with them.
After
I see people more equally. I notice them for who they are - reasons beyond sexual desires. People are not sexual objects anymore. It's so satisfying looking at someone you're attracted to in the eye and proving to them (and yourself) that you're not a pervert. You become a better communicator, both verbally and non-verbally. Then inevitably they become attracted to you because of it.
ANXIETY*
Before
Whether it was situational or random, my breathing sometimes felt like it was irregular. My social anxiety was unpredictable and I would avoid so many situations. I even had a slight stutter when speaking and I didn't project my voice confidently*.
After
I feel less anxious. That's right - less, not zero. It's impossible not to feel anxiety or fear. It's a part of being human. However now it's more manageable and explainable. I feel anxious for good reasons. Such as, pushing myself to get out of my comfort zone with public speaking or attempting to hold the attention in a group conversation. I feel anxious for the right reasons and it's on a small scale which I can override, rather than have it override me.
CONFIDENCE*
Before
I was just a body sitting in front of a laptop screen. I lacked confidence because I wasn't worth it. How could I possibly look myself in the mirror and take myself seriously knowing that I carry around a naughty teenage habit? I always lacked self-esteem because of what I knew about myself. Others didn't know this about me but if I can't respect myself then how can I expect others to?
After
Knowing that I've overcome a week, a month and longer, is enough to give me confidence. Knowing that I'm in control of my life and habits rather than 'it' having control of me, fills me with pride. Self-esteem has increased and I'm learning about who I am and who I want to be. I can look in the mirror comfortably. I can stand my ground and have people look at me because I'm okay with who I am now. This is easily one of the best benefits: self-respect and self-worth.
APPEARANCE
Before
I would sometimes appear publicly as a scruffy, unshaved guy wearing creased-clothes. I didn't make a consistent effort; I was a hit and miss. Even if I was freshly dressed for an occasion, I felt dirty inside.
After
I now have time to shave regularly. I choose my attire rather than rushing to get ready - opting for the same clothing over and over. I even make time to iron clothes. Not only do I look presentable on the outside, but I've convinced myself that I'm worthy of a nicer appearance and I'm not trying to fool anyone this time.
NUTRITION
Before
My fapping habits would make me skip meals or opt for whatever was quick and easy.
After
I make time to eat healthier meals. I eat regularly and even try out cooking different recipes or host people for dinners.
CLEANLINESS
Before
Similar to above - I didn't have or make time for being frequently clean. Once in a while I would tidy my room but it didn't take long for it to get dirty again. My kitchen sink was regularly full of dishes and the smallest of chores made me feel like I had to run a marathon.
After
My bedroom/home is cleaner. I regularly tidy and wash my dishes. I tackle these household chores with acceptance - I can't avoid them anymore so I procrastinate less.
FREEDOM
Porn will imprison you unless you escape and never look back. Escaping is extremely testing but it's worth every moment of freedom that you get rewarded with.
My other posts...
WHY I'M GLAD I RELAPSED: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/why-im-glad-i-relapsed.151499/#post-1253269
TOP TIPS FOR NEWBIES: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/top-tips-for-newbies.140967/#post-1135734
HOW TO GET YOUR TIME BACK: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/how-to-get-your-time-back.150269/#post-1239527
360 VIRTUAL REALITY PORN: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/360-virtual-reality-porn.142536/
ROUGH PORN: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/rough-porn.142538/#post-1153459
HOW I GOT ADDICTED TO PORN: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/soft-core-to-hardcore-how-i-got-addicted-to-porn.137066/
HOW HABITS WORK: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/how-habits-work.149202/
THE PROBLEM WITH NOFAP: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...benefits-ive-experienced.148708/#post-1225891
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