women have a good instinct if there`s "something wrong" with a guy. Doesnt necessarly mean they follow this voice, though but all in all my impression is as well, that they can sense if you work on yourself etc pp, or if not. I mean, honestly we feel it too, if a buddy tries to do something in his life or not? The attitude really changes. Good luck!!! And yes, the possibilities are out there, just dont look at them like this, otherwise you end on the "meatmarket" of soulless dating and ONS, and this leads to nothing else then tears (after a little high).