Poll did porn kill love your love and attraction for your partner

Did porn kill your love and attraction for your partner while using

  • Yes it did

    Votes: 5 50.0%

  • No it didn't

    Votes: 5 50.0%
  • Total voters
    10
Yes :)

For me, i started being able to O with my partner, whereas before I could only O by myself while fantasising or watching porn. I also became more responsive. This is all very nice for partner of course.

For partner, he is a much, much, much nicer person without porn. He treats me with love and kindness. He enjoys my company. He respects and appreciates me. This all disappears when he is deep in PMO as he becomes a heartless shell of a person.

For me (female) the effects of MO & PMO were mainly desensitisation. For partner (male), the effects were mainly psychological/behavioural.
 
No, my girlfriend is now more worried about me relapsing and effectively cheating on her (although I am on my longest streak and feel completely revitalized, not a creep anymore!)
 
SpiritAnimal said:
Yes :)

For me, i started being able to O with my partner, whereas before I could only O by myself while fantasising or watching porn. I also became more responsive. This is all very nice for partner of course.

For partner, he is a much, much, much nicer person without porn. He treats me with love and kindness. He enjoys my company. He respects and appreciates me. This all disappears when he is deep in PMO as he becomes a heartless shell of a person.

For me (female) the effects of MO & PMO were mainly desensitisation. For partner (male), the effects were mainly psychological/behavioural.
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Thats what I want. I feel like I haven't been as patient with my girlfriend as of late when in reality I should. She doesn't deserve me being short with her at times when it really isn't her fault.
 
Frando said:
No, my girlfriend is now more worried about me relapsing and effectively cheating on her (although I am on my longest streak and feel completely revitalized, not a creep anymore!)
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What do you mean you feel "revitalized" do you mean as a person or with your relationship (if you are in one) or your outlook on life.
 
The honesty is what saved my marriage. I can't say anything on this site did it but stopping P and M and being transparent did wonders. In my case the hideing and minimizing were the main problems. I think.
 
Dogmana said:
The honesty is what saved my marriage. I can't say anything on this site did it but stopping P and M and being transparent did wonders. In my case the hideing and minimizing were the main problems. I think.
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How did it save your marriage per say? I just want to hear success stories because it motivates me
 
raysfan16 said:
why did you breakup with her? Did you feel less attracted or love with her while on pmo?
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Because she was asking me all the time to break up. After a few days, she wanted to be together again. I forgave her a million times. Sometime I got fed up and when I forgave her, I made clear that this was the last time. After a while, she asked me to break up again. I warned her, I tried to change her mind, but I accepted her decision. The following day, she called me and asked me to forgive her. Of course, I didn't. And she said I was right about it...
 
hardowner said:
Because she was asking me all the time to break up. After a few days, she wanted to be together again. I forgave her a million times. Sometime I got fed up and when I forgave her, I made clear that this was the last time. After a while, she asked me to break up again. I warned her, I tried to change her mind, but I accepted her decision. The following day, she called me and asked me to forgive her. Of course, I didn't. And she said I was right about it...
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damn I sorry dude. that must have been hard
 
raysfan16 said:
What do you mean you feel "revitalized" do you mean as a person or with your relationship (if you are in one) or your outlook on life.
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I feel revitalized based on my whole personality -- this is post-Surge happiness too. I feel more motivated, that's the biggest things. Concurrently, my grades are doing better and I am interacting with more and more people every day.
 
Initially, we took a hit. After ten yrs of marriage, I crushed all of the built up trust and equity I had built. Trust started to come back eventually; things have actually been so much better since - way better than before I came clean. Sex also improved for us because it was real and not my PMO using my wife as an object of sex. Much, much improvement.
 
hardowner said:
Because she was asking me all the time to break up. After a few days, she wanted to be together again. I forgave her a million times. Sometime I got fed up and when I forgave her, I made clear that this was the last time. After a while, she asked me to break up again. I warned her, I tried to change her mind, but I accepted her decision. The following day, she called me and asked me to forgive her. Of course, I didn't. And she said I was right about it...
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Meh it’s good you don’t need a flake like that in your life
 
hardowner said:
I miss her more and more. I thought that time will make me get over her. 2 years later I feel worse. I'm planning on joining a boot camp and move on. See if it works...
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sorry to hear that man. If she kept breaking up and pleading to come back to you, that’s a big red flag though. You don’t need that indecision. There will be another girl who values you more
 
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